Well basically, ive been... i hesitate to use the term, but i really love my friend, and ive felt this way for about a year now. We are in the same class at college, meet up or hang out at his house once or twice a week. I realised I was crushing on him a while ago but thought it would pass, but it didnt. I really care about him and when i dont see him i feel empty. I honestly just want everything to be good for him. The thing is, he is an exchange student and has a girfriend back home. When we finish at college this year he will move back home and I will go to uni. But for now, i think about him constantly, i cant sleep, i cant relax. i have tried avoiding him but it makes it worse cause i miss him as we really get on well, he doesnt understand and says he misses me too. I can never make a move on him. How can i forget him? I dont want to feel this way any more, its like having permanent stomachache.
2007-01-10 04:18:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plenty of other guys have asked me out over the year and ive gone on dates with them but felt nothing for them, and then broke it off as i felt bad to lead them on.
2007-01-10 04:19:18 · update #1
No I cant ask him out... i dont want to get in the way of his relationship. I really want to stop feeling this way so I can be around him, cause we have fun. Right now I think its best to not even be around him.
2007-01-10 04:30:41 · update #2
Hey, I think you should enjoy this friendship while you can. Just think! He's leaving in a year! You'll never see him again! Please have as much fun as possible with him otherwise you'll regret it! Friendship is better than nothing, but here is a suggestion:
Before he leaves, tell him you've developed strong feelings for him but be friendly, jokey, and not THAT serious, otherwise he might take it the wrong way that you want a relationship with him. If he says nothing can ever happen between the two of you.. then accept that and stay as friends. If he tells you he likes you too.... that's when you gotta worry. He's already got a girlfriend... unless he's willing to commit as a boy friend to you, then don't have a relationship with him.
I'm hoping he'll tell you he likes you... ^_^ it'll make your day I'm sure. Good luck.
2007-01-10 04:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, hon, I was EXACTLY in the same situation... Fell in love with a guy friend, who had a girlfriend back home. Moreover, he also had a crush on me. He was the sweetest guy ever, very kind, so I just couldn't control my feelings. Well, we both got very confused, overstepped the line a bit, he even postoponed his coming back home, because I guess he was choosing... In the end, he chose her because of number of reasons... She found out and also got hurt. So my advice will be - don't get under any illusions, there are plenty of fish in the sea! Your Mr. Right will come your way and even if that's him, let him make the first move and decide, whether to be with you or not, this way you will spare yourself your nerves and keep away from a mess that may occur! Good luck! All the best!
2007-01-10 12:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone! All normal teenagers have to go through this at some point. Some day you'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was about. u'd probably say to yourself, thank goodness u didn't end up with him. It's human nature for us to want what we can't have. Don't ever get involved with an unavailable man unless u r a masochist.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck"
I do have have a way for u not to feel all romantic when u r around him. Just visualise him in a silly costume like a clown e.g.
Have u ever heard of self-hypnosis?
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2007-01-10 12:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by Zenithia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to be brave and ask him out . Unfortunately at the same time you have to be prepared for rejection and if that happens you will feel lousy. Be prepared to fell like it for some time because you will have the same feeling you would have if you hadbeen in a relationship and it had finished. but at least eventually you will get over it. right now you do not have the chance to do that as you are desperately clinging to hope.
2007-01-10 12:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
This sounds painful! It sounds like you're going to have to resolve things with this guy so you can move on one way or the other.
What have you got to lose? Tell him how you feel and see what happens. He may say he's not interested as he has a girlfriend. Alternatively, he might say he feels the same and wants to take things further.
You can't go on feeling like this so take all your courage and risk it.
Good luck and I hope you find the happiness you deserve.
2007-01-10 12:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by MsCurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is trully the best policy in all personal relationships.
I'm not talking about making a move, I'm talking about getting your feelings understood by your friend.
Until you do, the veil of secrecy between you can only lead to further confusion, doubt, and dissapointment.
Talk it out, okay!
2007-01-10 12:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Grand Master Spank!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not love - it is an infatuation!
He is out of bounds so to speak - so you want him, because you can't have him! If he didn't have a girlfriend you probably would go out together and find that it wasn't what you wanted!
Basically, get over it - if he liked you in that way it would have happened!
2007-01-10 12:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweet..... Right what you have to do is .... Ask him out.... no question about it .....if you dont then you will lose him..... So it's about time you do something about it.....
Nod ....Yes .....I will ask him out....
Good girl Xxx
2007-01-10 12:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋