a casual affair would you want to be friends. What I am saying is we was suppose to start out as friends with benefits, but it ended up being a casual affair. The guy talks to me through out the week, ask me how I am doing and actually tries to talk to me. So I wanted to know if I am ok with the no strings attached then what makes him want to add the friendship to the casual affair.
Also, since he is now doing this, what can I say or ask to take it to a friendship that won't make it seem like I want realationship or that I am trying to get in his personal business. I don't mind being his friend I just don't know how because it is a casual affair.
2007-01-10 04:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by Sexy Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds as though you two wanted to be friends from the very beginning but found this to be more interesting and went in that direction and now you're just coming around full circle. it shouldn't have to be about "taking it to" a friendship or bring the friendship out in the open when basically you two are already friends just that you two don't realize it, or aren't willing to admit it. if he isn't a total jerk, and is just being polite or perhaps a true gentleman and the friendship isn't sincere, then perhaps that's something you're going to have to find out the hard way. chances are that's all that it is, if you agreed to the casual affair without cementing the friendship upfront, which would have had to happen fairly recently after he'd met you before a real friendship could have been established.
friends with benefits is a polite way of admitting that there's some chemistry there, and acting on it, yet trying to keep up the guise of a friendship because it is the right and proper way to do. it only works if the friendship can exist outside of the sex, which is something that you'll eventually have to see for yourself to determine if the friendship is even worth your time to begin with. let him ask questions and pursue you in that way, and simply respond back to him the way you would any other friend. but it isn't something that is pivotal to the relationship that is worth talking about because if he was involved with you in that way in the past he should have been your friend to begin with.
2007-01-10 04:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your question, isn't friends with benefits the same thing as a "casual" affair? That's the same thing in my book. I think he wants a little bit more than a casual affair.......perhaps a "relationship". You both agreed to a friends with benefits or a casual affair on the grounds nobody would get hurt or attached etc. Sometimes these things happen. You have become more close. What did you expect?
2007-01-10 04:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have feel in love with you through this casual affair. This is reason he calls you every day, etc...He is just to nervous/scared to tell you, does not want to mess his good thing up.
2007-01-10 04:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
each so often a casual affair could be a friendship, and a powerful friendship as long simply by fact the friendship does not grow to be attachment or possessiveness. perhaps he's worrying approximately dropping the casual affair until he will pay you interest......
2016-10-30 13:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex will lead to more almost always if it keeps on going on and on...
2007-01-10 04:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by hunter6543 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋