How exactly is marriage sanctimonious?? Recent studies show that in 2000, 2,355,005 were married in the USA, while 957,200 divorces were finalized that same year - and this doesnt count the number of annullments either.
So, with nearly every 1 out of 2 marriages ending in divorce in America today, how exactly can ANYONE claim that marriage is sanctimonious??
2007-01-10 04:10:56 · 27 answers · asked by YDoncha_Blowme 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
So, if about 1M people remain married per year, and there are 250M people in America, that means that 1/250th of the population's opinion of the sanctity of marriage is what is legislating laws that affect us ALL???
2007-01-10 04:41:07 · update #1
Divorce is clearly a much bigger danger to the sanctity of marriage... and yet people are so concerned with same sex marriage.
2007-01-10 04:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
Sanctity of marriage will always be , because God ordained it to be. It is SO SO sad that 1 our of 2 marriages end in divorce, but that does not change the fact that it is sanctimonious. This can go along with the same idea of Sanctity of Human Life- from the time of conception. Just because women are CHOOSING to abort their children does not mean that it should still be sanctimonious?
2007-01-10 04:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is little more than a legal contract between two people.
The church has made it into a spiritual, gender specific agreement between a man and a woman, their god and the state.
People have made it into a union of flowers, love notes and passion.
Genetically speaking, we're just supposed to survive by producing more of us. So I suppose it's a matter of how you look at it.
Marriage obviously isn't successful in producing long lasting relationships and that would tend to support that there's nothing sanctimonious about it. We enter into the contract of marriage with about as much forethought as which show to watch on TV, so not fully understanding the expectations of each persons beliefs on marriage they end in angry disappointment.
But alas.... we're victim to romantic dreams like Romeo and Juliet. (If it were only true) Other times we really need to think there is something extremely special about marriage so we attach a spiritual connection within it. We believe marriage is all that and a bag of chips. We say god has sanction it and to prove the point we use the scriptures to support our beliefs and that sanction. If you don't think it is then it isn't, if you do think it is then it is. It's all in our heads... both of them. ;-)
2007-01-10 04:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats because people do not hold the marriage contract forever anymore. People get married with the outlook that i'm just going to try this for awhile. Now its when the going gets tough, the split, splitting apart families, children having tons of half brothers and sisters, split up all over the place. I know divorce is necessary in the case of physical violence, etc., but people change marriage partners so much these days it saddens me. I've beren married to my guy for 30 years, plan on keeping that way and I'm not afraid to work at it so it stays that way. I know he would do anything for me. My marriage had its up and downs, and a separation in there. However, on this side of it, I feel lucky, as he does, to have made it work.
2007-01-10 04:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by BelievesInGod 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage, the giving of yourself completely with devotion and love to someone of the opposite sex is a beautiful thing. God does not want us to live our life alone, Hence ADAM & EVE.
Nothing this beautiful comes easy, that is part of the problem with people today, you want everything for nothing. It is like life, it is a struggle full of temptation and other evil forces. Only the strong marriages will survive much like in the bible only the most devoted and faithful will go on to everlasting life in peace. This is why it is sanctimonious because it requires great strength and faith to keep it, those who fail to hold onto it have failed in this task. It is not meant for the weak, the weak are supposed to fail at it. A strong marriage becomes stronger with time like a fine wine.
Try reading the bible. You don't have to emmerse yourself in it but you can learn a lot from just reading it.
2007-01-10 04:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberry 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This shows the downfall of our Christian Heritage. Not that Christian marriage has gone down. To say that the percentage of Christian marriages that end in divorce is higher than atheist's or whomever is a misnomer. Those numbers come from vague surveys asking "are you a Christian" "Have you been divorced?".
The problem with that is EVERYBODY thinks they are a Christian and MOST of them are not. Barna did a survey of people who "Claimed" that they were Christians and asked questions like "Do you believe that Jesus is God" and "Do you read your Bible every day" and based their Christianity on proper answers. Barna found out that less than 15% of those who "claimed" to be Christians were really of the faith by Biblical standards.
Out of the number of married Christians that read their Bible every day, only 1 of 350 get divorced. This is the REAL numbers of CHRISTIAN marriages.
The fall of marriage in secular marriages is the fall in the submission to the authority that sanctified marriage, which is to be expected.
2007-01-10 04:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by ἡ ἐκλογὴ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can accurately claim that marriage is sanctimoniuos because sanctimonious doesn't mean the same thing as sacred: it means holier than thou, which is what a lot of people claim they are because they are married.
In fact, ironically, with all the anti-gay marriage rhetoric flying around in the face of your accurate divorce stats, how could anyone not say that marriage is sanctimonious?
2007-01-10 04:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by Chris H 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I hold my marriage sacred, it is the most important thing that I have. People get married for the wrong reasons, that is why so many end in divorce. Nothing wrong with marriage, it is beautiful and natural to want to have someone to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-01-10 04:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Laws such as no fault divorce and community property have made getting divorced easier. Which of course means that people do not feel they have to work at a marriage, far easier to just be selfish and get divorced.
2007-01-10 04:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by alive again today 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is man made anyway.
We have lived together for about 4 years now. We love each other and are happy together. Some people who are married are not in love or happy but have done it to just please their peers. That just leads to unhappiness and/or divorce. Marriage is no guarantee of a life long union anyway.
2007-01-10 04:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that a couple should commit to each other-but, not with a G-d like effect or condition. I do not think it should be a sanctimonious thing unless the couple wants it to be. You are placing your standards on everyone.
2007-01-10 04:20:02 · answer #11 · answered by Shossi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋