To the public eye..everyone thinks my family is perfect..we get along like normal families...of course..but in a way its a big show...I don't want anyone to know what my family is really like..but the truth is..My mom..cant express herself..she hides in the basement and smokes away..my dad is an asshole when hes mad! He throws things..punches walls..its bad sometimes...then he just shuts us all out and goes into the other room and closes the door..My older sister...follows close to my dad..only she actually hits me..or whoever...she says the meanest things which actually hurt me...i express myself by writing..or running..thats the best way i can...my brother does NOTHING..he doesnt talk..write..he expresses nothing..besides one day he exploded and started stabbing the couch with a knife...what should i do? we've had so many family meetings and they do NOTHING..im so lost!
2007-01-10 04:08:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, you need to talk to your mom and dad and tell them you love them and the rest of your family and you want them to go with you to counseling .good luck, if you want you can even e-mail me and i would be willing to talk to you
2007-01-10 04:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if all is as you have stated , it is time for some family intervention.This is really form of abuse all the way around. Have you considered talking to a counselor at school (if your in school) and getting some advice on how to deal with this.'
Your family needs help and now.
Perhaps the school counselor can find the intervention that you need .Maybe even go to a church and talk to a pastor about all this. don't sit and take this....
2007-01-10 04:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety I know that you love your family and want to try and help as much as you can, but you need to get
out of that household before you get
seriously hurt or killed. "Stabbing the
couch"? What is wrong? Well if you
have any aunts that know this problem is going on maybe you can
stay with her. I feel for you sweety and I'll pray for you to. Your family
needs some serious help and I hope they get it soon. There are lots of places you can contact, like childrens
services, the police. Your mom can
call women in need and your dad should contact a therapist.
2007-01-10 04:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds to me like your whole family could use some counseling. There are different ways to deal with anger and sadness. It seems your family just shuts the world out instead of dealing with it. I would talk to your family at one of your meetings maybe some outside help will help your family.
As far as your health and safety have you talked to a counselor at school? Have you tried to get some counseling for yourself?
2007-01-10 04:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you suggested Family therapy. or Counseling.
There is anger stemming from somewhere and it needs to be released healthy. So far it sounds like its a very unhealthy dysfunctional manner in which to release all the anger.
Might be a consideration to talk to the family doctor or minister in your area. they might come up with something for you to suggest.
I wish you well I am so sorry you are in this right now
2007-01-10 04:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family needs professional help. You need to tell someone whats going on so they can intervene. Do you have any other family members that you can tell like grandparents, aunts or uncles? Something has to be done before things turn more violent than they already have. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
2007-01-10 04:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you all need some help but first and formost the best help you can get is from prayer take it to God for guidence. There are places that you and your family can go to get help. try a womens shelter to seek counceling for your mom she really need to get help in order to help you guys tha's a good thing that your doing for an outlet is writing down your feelings. it may take time for dad to realize her need help to deal wit what ever is going on with him. but in the mean time get your mom and siblings help seek the school councelor ,community in schools,if you don't belong to a church then call some to see if they can help wit prayer or guide you to some one who can I'll be praying that you guys get some help to deal with the anger that has disrupt you house. ask god to remove satin from there and mean it give it to him and leave it there continue to talk to the Lord and ask him to help show you a way to help your family. God be with you and your family in you rtime of need.
2007-01-10 04:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by miss out spoken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to marriage counselor and get some help its to hard to live like that my Mon and Dad got in fight to but my brothers and sisters say they don't remember any that the suits
2007-01-10 04:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how old you are, the best you can probably do is wait it out. wait until you can move out and be on your own. i am sure oyur family will not even consider counselling, and the first step to making anything right is admitting you have a problem in the first place.
2007-01-10 04:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I can put you on the right path if you are serious and want the help. I found this place that can really help: http://www.familyfirst.net/
I hope that everything will be OK.
2007-01-10 17:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋