kids and fighting with each other?

Question

my children are 6 and 9, both boys, and t they are driving me crazy.....they fight with each other all the time they are starting to back mouth me and my husband and I have had it with them even my 2 yr old "boy" has picked up on this does any1 have any suggestions on what to do....and yes they do get plenty of love and disapline.

Answer 1

They may get love and discipline. but
what kind of discipline? Sometimes
spoiling the rod helps more than spoiling the child. If you've ever read
the bible, that what it tells you. The
bible tells you how to raise your children. Why would you let your children embarrass you in the store or
in front of your friends.

Spank their little butts, take things away until they straighten up. Children learn what they live--are you helping.

Answer 2

The first answer was really the best. I have 3, boy-girl-boy, ages 10-5 1/2. They fight; the oldest mostly w/ the youngest. He's jealous and intolerant and the younger one baits him.

Have you figured out the dynamics of who's doing what? I suspect the 6 yo is causing most of it. Make sure you're punishing the right one for the right reasons.

You may want to implement something that rewards them for getting along. Like if they only have 3 fights in 5 days they can go somewhere or do something fun, like McDonalds.

Best wishes--I'll be keeping an eye on this myself.

ps. The Backtalk cannot be tolerated--that should be your priority punishment.

Answer 3

What are they fighting about? Kids fight, that's what siblings do. You have to find some ground and figure out a way to separate them, find out the problem, deal with the issue, and if it's taken care of, it shouldn't happen again.
You're children aren't respecting you if they are "back talking" you. I would nip that in the bud. Make them aware who's the parent and who's the child NOW before they get older and start pushing you and your husband around. If they think it's OK now, they'll always think it's OK. If you're going to discipline, you have to be consistent. If you only do it once in awhile, they won't take you seriously. Start taking things away or grounding them if they are fighting or disrespecting you. Do it before your 2 year old thinks it's OK, too. It's great you give them love and discipline, just be consistent and make sure they know who's the parent and who's the child. You're not their friend, you're their parent. I hope this helped.

Answer 4

As long as there is no blood, don't get involved in the situation and let them argue for insignificant things. That is what they usually fight about, so no harm is done. As for back mouthing you, don't allow it because it only shows that there is no respect towards their parents and that should not be tolerated. The best thing to do is punish them with the things they like. If they like the internet, video games, riding bike, going to the park, watching cartoons, etc...you just take away those privileges and tell them that they have to earn those by respecting their parents and respecting their family, including their brothers. This worked for me and up to date, when they behaved bad, I took away their privileges.

Answer 5

They are kids. They fight and fight. As long as they are getting the love and discipline they need, it is probably just a phase. If it goes on much longer (the back-talking, not the fighting because who knows how long that will last) you and your husband need to make a plan of defense and know what you will do next time it happens.
For instanse, send them to their room for 10 min.

Answer 6

These boys have too much time on their hands. I think a list of chores that they will have to do daily will help.
Do a reward board with a chance to draw for a prize.
Try cleaning out their rooms of stuff except bed and clothes and let them earn the privilege of getting them back one at a time as they do the chores. Make them carry some responsibility in the household. If you expect nothing from them they will expect nothing of themselves..
Too much TV, video games. They need to be outside more , get them involved in a team sport that they will exhaust themselves doing to get rid of some of the energy.
Don't argue with them, don't give them choices and don't try to reason with them.Tell them what to do and be very firm, do not let up or give in because you are frustrated.
You and your husband need to get together as a team and work on this before it gets out of hand,
Ignoring their lip and comments is not going to help you or them.
If all else fails, throw a pail of cold water on them and let them cool off. Let them know when they can be civil you will talk to them.