why can i work?

Question

i want to be able to work but can't.

My husband works full-time during the day. I cant put my kids into a day care while i work as it will cost too much(worked out£256.00 per week) and i have no family support to look after the little ones if i was to go to work.

I wouldn mind doing nights but there are limited jobs that i can do with no qualifications such as cleaning, waiting on or bar work.

Trouble is my partner works in north wales and i live in newton le willows and he doesnt get home till late. he can come home one night at 5 0' clock, then the next night 7 0' clock- as he gets stuck in traffic and if i was to go to work i would have to be there for a certain time and not when i can turn up.

I really want to work as im bored of not being able to bring a wage into the home and it gets me out to meet new people. does anyone have any ideas?

no stupid ones such as going into prostitution please!!!!

Answer 1

Your kids should be more important to you than bringing in a some money. Stay home and be a mommy if you cant afford daycare. Unless you HAVE To get a job which it sounds like your just board of being a mom and want to go back to the old days. What about time with your husband? When do you see him???

Answer 2

I know how you feel, as I am in a very similar situation. My husband is gone from 9am-7pm or later 6 days a week. We can't afford daycare and the days can be very tedious and lonely. I absolutely adore my son and I know that someday I'll miss the days when he was little, but sometimes I need to have an adult conversation.This is what I do:
I started selling portraits on eBay for a little extra money. I don't make much, but it's still enough for a night out here and there. Even if you don't have a skill that's marketable on eBay, there other at home jobs you could try. (Just be sure none of them ask you to pay anything up front, because that means it's probably a scam)
Of course this doesn't get me out of the house to meet anyone. So what I do for that is create "playdates" with other mom's with similar interests and kids. You just have to be brave and outgoing at first to go and find them. We'll eat lunch at each other's houses or go somewhere like a playground or museum. It has also created a network of babysitters for me. With one of these mom's we take turns babysitting each other's kids so we could attend a night class twice a week at the local college. We're both inching towards a degree so that when our kids are all in school we can start a more flexible and higher paying career.
Hopefully this gives you some ideas! I'd offer to set up a playdate with you, but I'm a bit far from you (Utah, USA). Good luck!

Answer 3

There are many legit options where you can work out of your home Some like Tupperware or Mary Kay were grown by women in much the same situation as you. Just be careful of the ones you've either never heard of or that ask you to buy in - there are also a lot of 'work from home' scams out there.

I know people who have offered in home day care to others (they bring the kids to your home) and others who offer to nanny as long as they can bring their kids. One friend took a job at a local health club where they offered child care for member’s children. She worked in the childcare center and could bring her kids with her.

If you have a car and your child is good about traveling and running errands you could offer assistant services such as shopping or picking up groceries and dry cleaning.

In my area there are company's that specialize in matching people willing to offer assistance, companionship and some light cooking/cleaning with the elderly or shut-in's (for pay, not volunteer). I'd imagine there would be some people who would appreciate your child's presence as well. If there is no group like this where you live maybe a local Church or Senior Center?

Answer 4

In the US we have people who are secret shoppers. Sometimes they have to go buy something (they give you an amount to spend, reimburse you and you get to keep what you buy), sometimes they have to eat out (they payyou for your time and pay for your dinner), sometimes they have to remove products from the shelf in the store because the company is changing the labels or something (you get to keep the product). It isn't a lot of money as far as the pay goes, but you get to keep the stuff and it would get you out of the house. Also you can take the kids with you.

There are also social groups like Mothers of Preshcoolers (MOPS) where there are get togethers of moms like you twice a month and child care is provided.

You can also work in a daycare. Most of the time when you work there your kids go free or at a greatly reduced rate.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Try something new Contact your local college and see if your ellegable for fre child care if you do a full time course. That way you can make new friends and learn something new and it gives you some breathing space from the kids alowing you to be you and not just a mum and wife. It may lead to work experience during college hours that could lead to a part time job.

Answer 6

Why don;t you start with bar or waiting work on just one Saturday or sunday evening a week, just to give you a chance to get out but still have time to spend the weekend with him. I'd highly recommend bar work, it's brilliant fun. or you could try nights at a hotel, either as reception or switchboard, you can find shifts that start at 8 or 11. also try call centres, some of them are 24 hours and there's sure to be one near you.

Answer 7

See if there is anything you can do at home on the computer. Or try to work part time. It is good to get out and away. Talk to you partner and see what you both come up with. Make this a joint effort.

Answer 8

supermarkets are your best bet for night work,ignore the people who are criticising you for wanting to work,I'm in the same boat as you i want a night job so i dont miss out on my kids i say every parent to there own.every one has a rite to bring there kids up there own way and people shouldn't be quick to judge.iv seen parents drop there kids off at nursery at 7.30am and not pick them up till 6pm others have brought them in when they are not at work,while some have to work and when they do get time off or finish early come get there kids straight away while some dont go back to work till they start school i personally dont agree with some but that is my opinion and no one should force theres on others but except that's what they want to do,you've been asked for advice not criticism.every ones has the rite to do as they see fit and every circumstance is different.xx(to the people quick to judge not the ones giving good advce).xx

Answer 9

Go to your local department of family and children services and ask if they have a daycare voucher program. They go on your income and pays a good percent of your daycare bill, like if daycare is 256, you may end up paying like 10 dollars of 30 dollars a week, not bad!

Answer 10

do an evening coerce at collage get some qualifications gives you the opportunity to get out meet people have fun then when you can work you can get a job that pays and you wont have to worry about how much childcare cost some collages have low coat coerces even free ones