hi there
i'm feeling quite depressed at the moment as i dont want to carry on with my girlfriend who i have only been dating for two months. normally i would just finish the relationship, but i like her best friend. i've liked her ever since we started going out, and the feelings have become stronger everytime im around her. what should i do?
any serious advice would be very appreciated. thank you very much. bye x
2007-01-10 03:52:33 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey there...dont be depressed...heres what i would suggest...tell your girlfriend the truth...even though it may hurt her...it will be better...to hear it now rather than later...after breaking up with your girlfriend dont immediately go after her friend...b/c thats really rude and will be even more hurtful...who knows maybe even after you break up with her and go out for a while you might find someone else other than her friend...hope this helps...and godluvya
2007-01-10 03:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My, you're in quite the quandery! Listen, if you break up with you girlfriend, her best friend will side with her... you'll be a class A jerk in both of their eyes... bad news. The best friend will most likely cut communication with you as well...
Here's a question for you... if you liked the best friend, how come you didn't go for her instead of the other girl?
Either way... here's what you'll have to do... IF you decide to break up with the girlfriend... you'll have to appear apologetic... but not to the point where you'll get back with her.. but if you get the best friend's number, you should call her frequently to find out how the (now Ex) girlfried is doing... express concern, continue to say you're sorry... the whole thing...
But... by talking to the best friend, you'll have an open line of communication with her, and after a few months... where you'll have to talk to her like every other day... aske her out... start as friends... it'll be better.
Also, after the initial break up shock is done... you should try to continue a friendship with the ex girlfriend... that way, you'll continually be around the best friend... after everything cools down... the ex might not neven care if you go for the best friend...
Bad news is that it all takes time, and might not work... Good luck, man!
2007-01-10 04:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately end it with your current girl. Then try and stay friends so you still hang out once in a while that way you can still see her friend. give it a couple months and then try your luck with the friend ask her out or give her your number or whatever you do. just make sure after you break up you arent still fooling around with your ex as her friend will hear about it and it will kill your chances. Also make sure you allow a couple months to go by before making your move \otherwise your ex will go crazy thinking there was something going on before the breakup
And for all the girls up there who say girls wont date their friends ex's WRONG!!!!! it happens all the time you cant help who you like, and if your friend is holding you back just because they had a short fling they're no friend any way. Girls you arent as tight as you may think.....
2007-01-10 03:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-18 07:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by elaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what you should do. The girlfriend's bestfriend is off limits. If they are truely friends, she will never give you the time of day. You need to stop seeing the girlfriend if you don't feel as strongly about her as you do her friend. Then you need to find someone who doesn't know either of them. You need to be honest and tell your girlfriend you don't want to see her anymore. Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-01-10 04:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like you were interested in your girlfriend, that is what you are feeling for her friend. I feel that you may need to become your own friend and love yourself and get to know yourself a little better so that you can decide before you jump into some hot water. What ever you do just be friends with both. No disrespect!
2007-01-10 03:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first you need to end it with your current g/f if you are no longer interested. Do you know if the g/f's friend even likes you? Because you dating her, if too soon, will cause a problem in their friendship as you first g/f needs time to get over the break up. You do deserve to be happy but just try not to hurt your ex in the process.
2007-01-10 03:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off.. If they are best friends, then you dont have a snow ball chance in hell of getting together with her. Girls rule #1 is: YOU NEVER DATE YOUR FRIENDS X's!!! NO MATTER WHAT, UNLESS... The friend gives permission. I seriously doubt that if you break up with your girlfriend, she will give her friend permission to date you. So I would forget about it and move on. Focus on why you like your girlfriend and try to work past this.
2007-01-10 03:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound respectable, any respectable man wouldn't do that to a girl... and besides the girls best friend will probably not go out with you anyway... but you shouldn't be with your girlfriend if you are thinking about someone else. I would cut ties with both of them for your own good... only hurt can come out of this situation.
2007-01-10 03:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by TOO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say you have to be honest with both of them. Tell both woman exactly how you are feeling. Cause after all Honest is the best policy. As for a decision on which one to be with--only your heart can tell you that. Just follow it and you will be fine. But do not lead either one on.
2007-01-10 03:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jerrie's Daddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋