Im tired of seeing the news where it tells of people abusing their kids, or abandoning them. It just makes me sick and makes me not want to watch it anymore. Before I had kids, I'd think, "Oh, thats so sad." Now, I look my two and think..."Why? They are so beautiful. Who would want to hurt them. They shouldnt even have them if they are going to be cruel." Some people arent lucky enough to carry and here these people are, throwing the innocent children out on the street. I wish we had the power to put a stop to it. But I know we cant. Just like drug use, and I know that alot of the abandonment has to do with drugs as well. It is a sad sad world we live in. I know you probably hear this all the time and know what I'm talking about but Im writing a piece on it and need some ideas. I myself never imagined myself as a mother but now that I am I can't imagine myself not being one. Got any ideas for me? Anything will be appreciated thank you.
2007-01-10 03:51:07 · 7 answers · asked by Koozie 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Im refering to the news 'technical difficulty'. Alot of it has to do with drugs on there and it breaks my heart to see poor innocent children suffering because of their stupid parents putting them into bad situations. I just wish we had a way to make these people WAKE UP before another child is put into a foster home for their parents mistakes. I was told I may never have children and here I am blessed with 2. I would never hurt them and do see why others do to theirs. The kids didnt ask to be here, we put them here. They wouldnt be here without us "having sex" as you put it. People should at least listen when they are told to use protection if they dont want to conceive. I know I may just be blowing steam but hell, there are innocent at stake! i just need some idea for the piece Im writing, telling people not to have sex wouldnt get by I need something better than that. They are going to "do it" no matter what people say, its human nature. I need something on the news' view of this.
2007-01-10 04:22:08 · update #1
'dont see why', sorry not 'do see'
2007-01-10 04:23:29 · update #2
One thing that can be done about that is making expecting women take child psychology classes throughout her pregnancy.
See, in my case, I grew up with some close minded people who thought the only and most effective way to dicipline was to hit you until you can't take it no more. Very ignorant. To make story short, I grew up with a mother who would no just spank me, but hit me until she got tired every time I did something she didn't like or anytime she was frustrated. The thing is, these kind of parents make you believe that you are beeing beat only when you deserve it?. As I got older, everytime I would be rude to my mother or make a commecnt about how abusive she was to my sister and I she would always say "wait til you have your children and you'll understand", Ok, well now I do have 2 precious children and you know what was the first thing that came to my head when I held my first baby for the first time? I thought: "my beautiful baby, there is absolutely nothing, nothing in this world that you can do that would make me mad enough to inflict any kind of physical or emotional pain and just let you cry for hours like your grandma did to me". They say having children makes you closer to your parents, but in my case, it just openned a bigger gap between us. People say I spoil my children too much, do I care? no, because I do not want them to grow up in constant fear like I did, because it does affect the rest of your life.
I would educate the parents, if that can be of any help.
2007-01-10 04:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by kassandra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first step is not to have sex. if folks would masturbate more this would save so many from hardship. i'm sick of hearing people wanting to have children so bad and then realizing it's a hard task then they give it up and let the child's development go down the toilet. or get violent with the child when they get older... children are not pets. and children need to be reared... no matter what we do... everyone knows that "they're right and you're wrong" and as long as that initiative is hard set in their minds nothing is going to change.
i know a couple where the male didn't want a child... she got knocked up because not only was she lonely during the day but wanted him to marry her. so now she's got this child who she was treating like a pet.. now the child is getting older.. and can talk, walk and defy her.. now she's unhappy with it and doesn't know what to do.
that makes me sick.
things won't change.
but i wish folks would stop.. think and realize that 90% of the time they're not ready to have kids.. if you want a kid... you're not ready sorry.
drugs aren't always the issues... most times it's lack of preparation.. thinking and considering themselves safe from the risks of sexual contact. and again the biggest is.. planning for a family.. most who plan don't have any idea what they're getting into.. our dreams always look better in our minds than it does in our realities.
2007-01-10 04:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have wanted to have kids for 9 years and I tryed to get pregnant for 8 years and then I stopped and I got pregnant. My daughter is so important to me I love her so much I would never hurt her ever and people who hurt there kids are sick people...Children are a blessing from god and that is how we should treat them as wonderful blessing.. I hope the piece your writing come out good and helps others
2007-01-10 04:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he made up all that crap about being a dad and loving you bc even tho he left, he nonetheless needs sex. adult males favor sex. definite, you've been used. the reason you dont trust him isbecause he is going to the flat of anther lady the position you should flow and discover him. adult males dont attempt this in the journey that they are honest. You arent loopy, he's a liar and also you should get a concepts far flung from him. go away the state or u . s . a . to discourage him from making use of the baby as a weapon hostile to you. it is going to purely worsen, so disappear continuously or marry the jerk.
2016-12-02 02:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by lemanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, but the only thing I can think of to help stop the abuse cycle would be adopt or foster some of these kids.
2007-01-10 03:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you! such a valid argument..maybe helping in volunteer services and giving donations to NGOs..
2007-01-10 04:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by scartissue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amen, sista!
2007-01-10 04:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by shaldyr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋