Why is it an "insult"?

Question

A common argument against gay marriage is that calling two men "married" is an "insult to my marriage". What does that mean?

Presumably, there are many marriages you don't agree with. When a young stripper marries an old man for his fortune, should that not be called a "marriage" because it's an insult to your own? And really, is two people in a close and loving relationship more offensive than a golddigger and a man who's willing to pay for a sexy young wife, if those two people are the same sex?

Also, why should laws be made based on whether or not you consider the result to be insulting? I think lots of laws are insulting, but gay marriage is the only one I've seen with any real opposition. Why is that?

To the first three posters: Please either answer the question or do not post. I don't need to hear that I'm "too young", "immoral", or that homosexuality is "gross".

Answer 1

I don't get it, either. I'm a woman married to another woman. We've actually put together two heterosexual couples--two friends who are now married, and my girl cousin and her boy cousin, who met at our wedding and are now engaged. We don't want to insult anyone's marriage; we just want one of our own.

If the sight of a loving relationship that doesn't look like yours is an insult to your marriage, the thing was a house of cards waiting for a light breeze anyway.

Answer 2

Not allowing gay couples to marry is one of the last legal ways to discriminate against homosexuals. Some (many?) feel that married people are superior to unmarried people. They feel it is normal (whatever that means) to get married, have children, own a home in the suburbs, drive a minivan, drive the kids to piano lessons, complain about real estate taxes etc. Bigots do not want gay couples to do the same things.

Disallowing gay marriage prevents or makes it difficult for gay couples to own real estate, claim each other as dependents on tax returns and insurance policies, and receive social security, pension and inheritance benefits. You know, things that moral people can do.

Answer 3

I mean, you are totally right. Actually "marriage" is just a concept. By changing the rules for a marriages nothing else is done than changing the rules. some people take this an insult, but that´s their problem, no one besides themselves is responsible for the way they feel. a "marriage" whatever kind it may be, has no power to insult somebody. personally i think that gay people should have the same right to marry as strippers and old aged men/women.

Answer 4

Good question Erin. I don't have an answer though, except that they are narrow minded, nosey, busybody people who want the world to live by their rules alone. The religious right wants the world to be converted to christianity. I don't know where the muslims stand on this as I personally have never seen a post by a muslim on this issue. I am really tired of religious people, of ALL religions, trying to foist their beliefs on those who don't buy into their beliefs. Personally, gay marriage will not affect me in any way...as it will not affect most of the population of this world. It will come about in my lifetime that gay marriage is allowable and accepted, but I know there will be lots of controversay leading up to it.

Answer 5

Do you imagine you can argue with the small-minded? They overlook the miserable nature of their own heterosexual marriages which insult marriage, they overlook Britney's 24-hour 'joke' marriage, they overlook gold-digging women, trophy wife seeking men, and will turn a blind eye to adultery - if gay marriage isn't to be legal, surely an adulterous heterosexual marriage should be annulled on the spot, for consistency's sake - before they would consider the gay couple I know, in their 60s, having spent 40 years together in remarkable happiness. So leave them be. Just stop them from interfering in anyone else's happiness.

Answer 6

I don't consider it an insult.

I get irritated when I see people jumping through hoops to regulate the relationships of consenting adults.

If you tell me "marriage is for the purposes of procreation," then my response is that nonfertile straight couples should not be allowed to wed.

If you tell me "it's a sin," I'll point to numerous other sins that are not (yet) proscribed by law. I can worship graven images, blaspheme, work on the Sabbath, dishonor my folks, and covet my neighbor's wife, slave, ox, donkey, or Maserati.

So why are some people so bent out of shape about gay marriage? It makes them feel iggy.

You know what makes ME feel iggy? People who claim to embrace a religion with moral imperatives such as "thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" and "do unto others as you would have others do unto you," and then use it as an excuse to seek to regulate others' conduct according to their prejudices.

Answer 7

Because it is ignorance, I am not insulted by it at all.Marriage is a promise to be faithful to on another, to be loyal, and also is a business agreement, to share all asset and liabilities. I do not see what is so insulting about that. I do find it very low-class to father numerous babies and boo-hoo about the child support incurred.

Jibba Jabba---I am not able to have children, so does that mean that my husband and I do not have a REAL marriage, because according to you, Marriage has to include loving their children...plus, many gay couple adopt, so does that count.

Answer 8

There is no rational, moral reason to deny consenting same-sex couples the same right to marry that is now afforded to consenting opposite-sex couples. It's a simple matter of equity. Homosexuality harms no one; the only people who object to same-sex marriage are those who base their lives, not on logic, but on baseless and outmoded prejudices written down millennia ago. To admit that homosexuality is harmless and natural would be to deny the accuracy of their scriptures.

Answer 9

60% divorce rate, marriage is a joke these days. Be real sure you can spend the rest of your life with a person, no matter who they are, man or woman

Answer 10

It all boils down to the opiate of the masses: religious belief.

As far as a good portion of this country is concerned, homosexuality is an 'abomination'.

The ironic part is that we were having this same discussion over interracial marriages a while back.