My best friend is getting married in April. I'm not in the bridal party because her mother is the one planning the wedding (my friend has pretty much no input whatsoever so the bridesmaids and groomsmen are up to mom). When someone asked my friend who was going to plan the shower and the batchelorette party she pointed to me and said "my bestest friend in the world!". I'm honored that she wants me to be the one to plan both events but this is the Maid of Honor's job. What should I do?
2007-01-10 03:42:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh, and I forgot to mention this: the Maid of Honor is my best friend's annoying, bratty, spoiled rotten, 18 year old little sister. This is both my and my friend's opinion of her. (This just shows how much control the mother has over this wedding.)
But thanks for reminding me, Jfranc1!!
2007-01-10 03:54:20 · update #1
One more thing: the two bridesmaids are her cousins in Texas!
2007-01-10 03:56:07 · update #2
It IS the maid of honors responsibility and honor to plan the shower. The bachellorette party can really be planned by anyone who wants to do it. Maybe your friend knows her sister won't put effort into the shower or won't be organized or responsible enough to do so. Showers can become very expensive, are you supposed to be the one paying for that?? That's really not fair to you dear. Also, if she says you are her "bestest friend" why were you not invited to be in the wedding? If I were you I would gently explain to your friend that while you would love to throw her a bachellorette party, the honor of the shower must go to her sister.
2007-01-10 08:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Maid of Honor traditionally throws the Bachelorette party and then anyone can throw the Bridal Party. If I were you to lighten your load I would choose one or the other to head up and organize and perhaps delegate or discuss with someone else (the bratty sister, an aunt or another close friend or sibling) to organize the party you don't choose to take charge of. I would definitely got on the same page with the Maid of Honor and talk to her about throwing the Bachelorette Party and see what she says or if she plans or wants to do it. Then you can go from there.
2007-01-10 05:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dissolvo Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bridal shower can be planned by anyone...friends family etc. But the Maid of Honor is supposed to host/plan the bachelorette party. If you know the maid of honor then I would call her and ask what her plans are....and if you could do anything to help (that way you don't have to do all of the work yourself).
2007-01-10 03:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you seem to be pretty understanding about not being in the bridal party but if you are truely her best friend then I agree that you should talk to the entire bridal party and plan something with them just kind of do a sign up thing for the shower like two people bring food one person think of games have one person in charge of prizes one person that worries about invites and getting those out.....this would be job that would be good for you so you can spend some one on one with your friend and talk to her to get addys of everyone she wants to invite and one person do decorating or something then you don't have to worry so much about keeping in touch and they can do things as they have time too......but for the bachelorette party I would say you guys will have to have a little more togetherness on that so that it isn't a flop!
2007-01-10 03:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 08:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by girardot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how your feeling about this. Obviously, this girl can't stand up to her mom about her bridesmaids, but she volunteered you to plan and pay for 2 parties for herself? I smell something, and it ain't pretty.
This is going to be expensive. Talk to her... Talk to the maid of honour, and let her know it was not cool of her to just volunteer you without consideration for your feelings. If you want to do this, go right ahead, but make sure your boundaries are strong and tight so that you don't get "volunteered" for anything else without your input. Do not be a doormat here please.
2007-01-10 03:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the maid of honor and plan it together. Besides, she still is your best friend.
2007-01-10 03:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jfranc1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to the maid of honor and see what she says. Then, ya'll can plan it together.
2007-01-10 03:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋