So just because I am attracted to mean bully meanies.... and I tell him GO AWAY I WANT TO BREAK UP..... and then i just can't say no to those kisses and hugs... etc.... aside from getting a new b/f who is nice and who might get killed by my old b/f, or getting a restraining order against my current bully b/f, WHAT CAN I DO?
This has been going on for two years now. I have told him repeatedly taht I will never live with or marry him.. I refuse to take his house key... come ON, HELP ME OUT PEOPLE
2007-01-10 03:40:13 · 4 answers · asked by andie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in a codependant abusive relationship. Make no mistake, it will NEVER get better and you will never be truly happy. You need to break it off and seek help from your local domestic violence prevention organization....they do way more than provide emergency shelter. They will provide you with counseling to help you break out of a co-dependant pattern and in getting a restraining order if your b/f refuses to leave you alone. You say you don't want to do that, but you need to face the facts....moe women are killed by their abusive domestic partners than anything else....don't kid yourself that this will be any different...it is never any different. You need to not worry about him and take steps to #1 free yourself, #2 protect yourself, and #3 heal yourself so that you don't conitnue to repeat a codependant pattern or find other abusive men to become involved in.
Do not sell yourself short by allowing yourself to think that you have anything remotely good in a man who bullies you, yet gives you tender kisses later. Real love should never involve any kind of bullying, domination or control. Don't let him or your inner talk tell you that there is nothing better out there...if you hold out for a quality man...one who does not bully you, one who respects you, one who accepts & loves you the way you are....you will find that person. Kisses from someone who treats you right all the time are far sweeter than the aspologetic ones from someone who has just finished tearing you down!
2007-01-10 03:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by nexgenjenith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are really into unhealthy relationships. I would tell you to find someone who loves you for you and wants to help you become a better person, but you prefer chaos to nurture as you have messed around with the same loser for two years. Find out what you want and make it happen. It does not matter how you get there, just have a clear goal in mind and dont let anything get in your way.
2007-01-10 11:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,this sounds really complicated but definitely fixable....The red flag has been up for two years..Let him go and right now.!!!!People don't change and a bad apple will always be a bad apple.Not making a decion is worst is the long run than doing nothing to make yourself happier.Listen to me, good sex is not enough to stay with someone.....You can always find another b/f not your current b/f....cause u r not being fair to your nice b/f cause all he's doing for you is being nice and that's not enough for a relationship to be complete. .Trust God andGood luck
2007-01-10 11:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing a dangerous game and you can get hurt and can't blame no one, for you pick them baby!.
You have to check your self and or get some help. You are not behaving like an adult. Be careful before its too late.
2007-01-10 11:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋