Me and my gf have been together for 8months and we are very much in love, but the past 1 month or two the relationship has not been right as I had college commitments and she had school, and we havent seen much of each other frm when it started not going right up until now, she told me a couple of days ago, she doesnt feel the same about us anymore and that 'spark' has gone, but she says she still loves me and she does and doesnt want to be with me anymore because she doesnt beleive it will work if we try and mend it and we decided to go on a 2 week break when her exams are finished, the question is what do I do in the meantime and how to mend what was once so great for us both, I dont want to lose her as I love Her So So Much... Help!!!
2007-01-10 03:39:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well u shoudl go out and have fun with ur friends. maybe hav a few dates. the "break" is always synonomous with break-up....its coming...be prepared
2007-01-10 03:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems you both are very busy people. School is very important. When she said she doesn't feel the same anymore! Well it's because she doesn't see you anymore. How can you have a spark with someone that you hardly see? A relationship needs for people to be together to make it work. It seems right now is just not a good time for you 2 to be together. I think you guys should remain friends. I know that is going to be hard for a while but if it's meant to be it will be. You can't make someone feel the same way you feel about them. It just wouldn't be right. Right now you need to spend time with your friends and enjoy the college life! Like I said it will take time but things happen for a reason. Good Luck.
2007-01-10 03:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by BlahBlahBlah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been a fan of breaks. If you love the person you don't need a break to decide that. Break up and do what ever you want (it may be the last time in life to do so). If you get back together that was ment to be, if not then it wasn't. If she called for the "break" leave her alone and let her come back to you don't call, don't text, don't email, don't drop by. If she contacts you only answer every other time. Let her imagine her life without you. Don't chase her like a puppy there is nothing more repelling then a man chasing a women like that. It's really tough but you will make it. Don't dwell on it, and don't keep talking to you friends they will be sick of talking about it. If you need to talk write it all down and let it out that way. Go out with you friends and have a good time, this is a time you really need and can enjoy your friends. Good luck and hang in there!
2007-01-10 03:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well- just give her the space she nees- maybe she asked for it because she needs to retionalize and think about things before you guys stay 1 more year together adn then realize that you do't love each toher afater all- i think what happend is that you don't see much of each other and she probably is trying to tell you that she needs more of your attention. If you can- call her at least onece a day and talkt o her fro a little bit- let her know that you care about her alot and worry about her well being or ask about the exams that's the trick. But- no matter what you do- don't smoother her- don't call her every single day and hour- but do call her- show her that you miss her and you're still interested in her. Be patient though! no matter what happens- if she really loves you and wants to be with you- you will both come together again but if not- she will find any little excuse not to be with you anymore. Keep your mind & heart open and be ready for anything.
2007-01-10 03:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um if the spark is not there than it's gone for good...sorry to tell you but after 8 months into a relationship is not really that long....I say you move on...
Take it from me, I am a female and yes most of the time a break can mean she is confussed on being with you or just has too much in her head to be in a relationship. If she loves you that is great, but it does not mean she is IN LOVE with you...that is 2 different meanings so ask her, just call her or better yet sit down and ask her yourself...does she love you as a friend or is she IN LOVE with you?
I would just say give up, and move on....
2007-01-10 03:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me and My Baby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be in love, it's not ok to be stressed-out over a relationship.
Concentrate on yourself. Focus on what is really important for you right now.
Go to the gym, take up some sports, some evening classes, hang-out with friends and loved ones who are very supportive of you.
Visit the elderly who have no relatives, volunteer to be an after-school tutor for kids with special needs, join a community organization that helps to improve your neighborhood, etc, etc.
The point is, if you keep yourself busy, you will be in better shape, feel good about helping others and your self-esteem will get a boost.
And with a bosst of self-esteem comes a new approach to how you see the world around you and how you will relate to others, especially your girlfriend.
If she is THE ONE, she will reconsider and see you in a different light. Maybe the sparks will be renewed.
Remember to do this for yourself, not for her.
2007-01-10 03:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by manna8888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a new gf cause the one you had is not attracted to you anymore.If during this break you keep calling her and telling her i love u and stuff like that, you ll blew it fast so go on with your life go out, meet some other girls. if thing get on track again with your gf the good, otherwise, you have new girls to think about.
Dont accept the "still friends" break up. Girls want to drink the milk but not milking the cow...thats an unfair deal.its all or nothing. dont act desperate or needy, thats why shes bored of you.
read "the game" by neil strauss
2007-01-10 03:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take things slow and don't rush!!! finish what you have to finish and she dose the same!!!! then worry about the small things!!!
2007-01-10 03:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by alex t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude it sucks, but that is her way of telling you she met another guy. time to move on and find someone else.
2007-01-10 03:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by bone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋