My sister asked me and my other sister to be her maids of honor last night and i thought i showed my excitement i told her that we would be honored but today my mom called me and she called her upset and crying saying that her other bridesmaids were more excited than my sister and i and that i need to fix it. that was the first time i have ever been asked to do something like that what should my reaction have been? I emailed and called her and she won't respond. what should i do?
2007-01-10 03:35:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You did everything you could do.
2007-01-10 03:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the other bridesmaids were more excited--you and your other sister are related to the bride--its understood. I have 3 sisters--2 of them are married. We weren't even asked to be in the wedding party--it was understood. I think your sister is on her way to being a bridezilla if your reactions were "happy enough" for her. To fix it, buy her something to get her started on her wedding plans--a planner or a memory box--- with a card signed "Your Maids of Honor" and a little note saying how happy the 2 of you of are for her and how grateful you are for being the maids of honor. that should cover it.
2007-01-10 03:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by katmusic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should have jumped up and down screaming with glee and giggling hysterically. Ohhh, I'm soooo honored a bridesmaid - eeeekkkkkk, shriek.
Not so nice of your mom, IMO, to call and tell you that your sister is upset at your reaction. Your sister should have been mature enough to discuss it with you and not run tattling to mommy.
Tell your sister that if she doesn't think you're appropriatey happy/excited to have the honor of being in her wedding then you'll bow out and let her find someone else who will be.
2007-01-10 05:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm..well she already seems like she may be a bride-ZILLA..lol...well the norm is to be excited and feel and act privledged...i suppose...but it's not really fair that she is not responding back to ur attempts to 'fix' the problem...this is a big problem in all of our social set up..it's not right for her to get made at you for not acting the way SHE wanted you to!! but to keep the peace..just tell her what u wrote on here...that u are really excited..you just have never been asked before so you didnt know what to say!! and hopefully when she gets over this tantrum everything will be ok...from the way all of this started..i predict there will be more problems with your sister not liking the way someone is doing stuff for her wedding...weddings turn nice brides into evil monsters..lol..just dont take none of it to heart...good luck!!
2007-01-10 03:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by vicgsugirl20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she wants to talk about it.
She is very emtional at this time.
Just talk to her about what is going on and let her vent.
Most of the time people who are mad about something it isn't that thing but a combination of things.
Give her the time to talk about whatever and tell her you are still honor to be the maid of honor.
btw: I maybe a guy but I was the maid of honor as they say that is another story.
2007-01-10 03:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is being totally retarded. She sounds like a self centered baby...... Your weren't excited enough??? She needs to get over herself. She doesn't sound old enough to get married. Sorry to say but if she this freaken sensitive you are going to have tons of problems with her wedding. Plus she has TWO maids of honor??? It's not even special anymore!!??
I would run!
2007-01-10 04:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with your mom.
If you gave a genuine reaction, you gave a genuine reaction. You don't owe anyone a do over, and you especially don't need to "fix it."
Your sister is of marriageable age, so she's old enough to own her own feelings. You gave an honest reaction. She feels it was unsufficiently enthusastic. HER problem, not yours.
If she is so self-centered and immature that she's running to Mommy to cry about you not being giddy enough for her Magic Moment, you might want to think about declining. If your oohing and aahing was insufficient, it's only going to get worse as Bridezilla's day approaches.
2007-01-10 03:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like sis is being a Bridezilla already. Just accept that she is going into crazy wedding mode already and be prepared for it every day until the wedding. Tell her she's being silly and ought to know how excited you are.
2007-01-10 03:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um thats pretty dumb of them....she prolly had this picture in her head of confetti and fireworks or something, and if you are excited and told her you were honored she needs to get over it....You emailed her and called, she knows you tried, she is just milkin the bridezilla thing...it will be fine. good luck, sounds like your in for a crazy ride!
2007-01-10 08:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably overly emotional this is her big day coming up.
You have done nothing wrong so just chill. I guess that there is a family history as with all families that is not all good. This is not about you so continue to be nice and if she wants to talk about it just be frank and tell her you are excited and that you are sorry that you didn't convey that well enough for her to see.
2007-01-10 03:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by JAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, it sounds like your sister is being a prima donna, a real bridezilla. If she won't respond to you, your mother needs to talk to her and make her see sense.The only person being hurt in the long run is her. What did she expect? For you to jump around screeching? She is definitely over reacting and if its like this now as the wedding gets closer it is going to get worse.
2007-01-10 03:41:34 · answer #11 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋