Swearing...Stopping it?

Question

During a conversation with my ex-girlfriend recently, she mentioned she had to tell her young daughter off for using foul language.

No problem there.

What she then told me was that a woman she used to know stopped her daughter from swearing by making her drink a glass of water with washing up liquid in it after many threats of doing so.

Also, although she never did, or never would have carried it out, a woman I knew once swiftly stopped her son from swearing while she was doing her make-up by telling him if the bad language didn't stop, she'd use her lipgloss on him.

Do you agree with these methods?

Answer 1

Why not? They don't actually hurt the child, just make them feel a bit ill. If a child doesn't understand a verbal warning they'll certainly understand not to swear when they feel sick. As long as you don't go overboard with the soap/washing up liquid and actually make them sick. Doesn't have to be washing up liquid either. Just give them food that they hate. If you never discipline the children they'll never learn. Simple.

Answer 2

OK well this may sound cruel to some, but it really isn't. My child had a horrible "potty mouth" I tried verbal warnings and even soap but that wasn't working. I was talking to my friend about it and she said that when her children used 'bad' words she would take their finger and put a dab of Hot Sauce on it and put it in their mouth. They were not happy at all, So I tried it and with in
2 -3 weeks My daughter's 'potty mouth' seemed to disappear. She even now tells me "those are bad words mommy" if I accidentally slip up once in a while.
Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

Using bad words or abusive language is increasingly becoming a problem in growing children. Most of us have experienced it but when it comes to dealing with it, we often don't know what to do.
First of all, we need to determine exactly our child is picking up this language from. Let us honestly examine our own language and see whether we are using foul language in front of our children. If yes, then let us stop it immediately.
Children can pick up bad language from people they regularly interact with, such as drivers, servants, ayahs, etc. So keep an eye on whom they are talking to and, if necessary, warm the foul language user.
Make sure that the TV programmes or the films that the child sees contains no objectionable language because media can easily affect the child's vulnerable mind.
Make the child understand that it is unacceptable to use bad language. Tell her that bad words hurt people.
Explain to the child that only undesirable people use bad language. If necessary, you can even tell the child the actual meaning of some bad words. This will make her remember their foul meaning the next times she feels tempted to use them and she will restrain herself.
However, don't make foul language an issue because sometimes children, instead of stopping, continues to use such language as they feel it will get our attention or will demonstrate their power. So try and handle the situation delicately.
Children are like sponges who soak the atmosphere around them. they naturally imitate what they see happening around. As parents and guardians. It is up to us to see that we provide our children with the right role models to follow and the right atmosphere to grow in.

You might want to try some of these methods instead of using lipgloss or whatever.

Answer 4

My mother put the tip of the dish liquid in my mouth for calling my dog a ""cking ""shole when I was about ten. I worked. It tasted horrible. Some Moms use tobasco sauce. The lipgloss thing is funny, not abuse.

Answer 5

theres no guidebook to parenting. some people dont make the best choices. my friend in high school got caught smoking and his mom made him smoke the rest of the pack right then and there which was roughly 10-13 cigs. he stopped smoking (cigs anyway) i think you know what will work on YOUR child, and you also should know better than to intentionally harm them. my friend had to put a bar of soap in his mouth for 5 min after cursing. hes still alive. the lipgloss sounds harmless.

Answer 6

We aren't those childrens' parents. They are doing what they think needs to be done to keep their kids from forming filthy habits. I would never wash my kid's mouth out with soap for swearing. I had it done to me as a child and found it humiliating (which is why it works). I am going to do timeouts or loss of privelages if the swearing ever happens. But I'm raising my kid right.... she won't curse. If she does, she will be old enough and will know better than to say it around me or her dad.

Answer 7

my mom used to make me rub the soap bar in my mouth if i lied or said anything bad, i'll tell you one thing, it worked.
And if you ever try it on your kids, use Dove, not Dial. it tastes better. they are both horrible, but Dove is better than the other one.