i need some advice..i live with my curent boyfriend in an apartment we rented ive been with him for 1 year..but im just not happy with him ne more he makes me feel worthless and depressed all the tyme and i kno that its not healthy for me to feel that way ..i still love my ex who i was with for almsot 3 years i call him off and on to cheer me up..he lives up north and yesterday he asked me a big question if i would move up there with him for a month and then we could come back and he would get and appartment together..but i jsut dont want to make another mistake ..but this is where my heart wants to be with my ex.please help..
2007-01-10 03:16:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say, take your ex's offer.
2007-01-10 03:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Smiles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. Your unhappy so you need to get the heck outta there and take care of #1 ( You ). Second, there's a reason why your ex is your ex lol. Unless he's changed ( which most guys dont ) you dont want to make that mistake again. The real answer is " Are you willing to deal with your ex all over again if he hasn't changed ?" You will follow your heart and do what you want no matter what advice you take here simply because when it comes to love, thats the way things go. Good luck hun.
2007-01-10 11:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's ur ex there must of been some reason y u didnt make it work with him. Its hard to picture it when ur stuck in such a bad relationship now, but my honest opinion is to get out of the relationship ur in now and look around. Dont just run back to ur ex because its what u know sometimes the best things come form unexpected places.
2007-01-10 11:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by That Kid Zinc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut. If you are not happy, you have to do something. You said you want your ex back, then go for it, who knows it will lead to best. If not, then there are always other paths to go. ITs no matter what happen to you in the future. Just go and let see how it does, if bad, then move on and you will find someone that will make you more loves. :) good luck.
2007-01-10 11:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any situation where you feel depressed and belittled is not ok- that is emotional abuse. i'm in the process of learning to trust my gut, and it sems like your gut is telling you to get away fast. on the legal sied, the current bf can sue you for you rportion of the bills/rent until the lease runs out. just evaluate everything and try to make the right choice. are you SURE the old bf is good for you? maybe you just need to step back from the dating scene all together and figure things out before dealing with ANYONE.
2007-01-10 11:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't really need our advice. Always follow your heart. Now I am not saying to rush back into anything with your ex however if that is where you heart lies than that is the path you should at least follow.
2007-01-10 11:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl life is short. what do you really want to do? follow your heart? take time to think, why did you break up with your last boyfriend of which you are now fantasizing ? will he not let you down again? but you being currently with a guy that makes you unhappy? girl you deserve better. you have so much love to give. be confident don't waste anymore of your love follow your heart. manner's friend jeni
2007-01-10 11:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by man_nerss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like ur ex is keeping u happier than ur present bf. My first instinct tells me that u must go back to him,where ur heart actually is. but i think before that u must also remind urself why u broke up with him. there must have been somethin bcoz of which u got outta that relationship. u must resolve all the differences u had with ur ex n make sure u dont look like ur going to him only bcoz u dont want to be with ur present bf.
u must make sure you really do,n also let him know that ur going back to him because u still love him n he's the one who makes u happy.
Good luck girl!
2007-01-10 13:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respectfully, my advice to you is to stop the "shacking up", why not find your own apartment. Don't allow yourself to play "wife" without the papers.
Does your ex still love you, if so, why won't you both get married then you can live "happily ever after" without all this confusion you're having.
Wish you the best!
2007-01-10 11:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. But whether or not you move in with your ex, it sounds like u definitely need to leave the current dude, because like you said it's not healthy.
2007-01-10 11:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mirch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not happy where youre at you need to go...if your ex is what you want and you are happy with him go...if your current bf makes you feel that bad you ahould leave any way hes not worth it. no one has the right to make anyone feel that way..go withyour heart on this one
2007-01-10 11:22:05 · answer #11 · answered by cnwhab4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋