Living in Dublin, 29 Years Old, not much confidence but everyone I know keep on telling me you'll defently get a man if you go out and look. How do you approch well I know how to approch what I mean is I'm not gonna go over and say fancy me do you want to bring me out? Seem to attract scumbags after money, to buy them drink, drugs etc.. I want a nice decent hard working man who will love me the way I'd love him. Is there a man like this out there?
2007-01-10 03:16:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you go looking in bars, clubs etc, then you probably won't find the person you're looking for.
What are your hobbies and interest? Maybe you could join a club and get involved socially in things you enjoy doing and have an interest in. Your more likely to meet a like minded potential boyfriend along the way.
Internet dating is also a great way to find people in your area with similar interests and oulooks. A lot of dating sites give free membership to women.
Remember be yourself and take your time, there is someone out there for you.
Good luck
2007-01-10 03:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 29 year old dubliner who met my boyfriend in a pub. I guess it depends where you go. There's a lot of places where the guys just go for a pick up cause they know they can promise you the world and they will probably never see you again.
Your best bet is to go somewhere where you can hear the other person speak first of all! Pick somewhere small and friendly where there is a lot of regulars. Start by talking - not by flirting - when I met my boyfriend he started talking to me by asking me where I got my bag cause his sister would really love one like it. He hasn't got a sister but it was a good icebreaker!
Most of all try and be patient or better still go out with people who know a lot of single guys !! If you're still stuck email me! I have two really wonderful male friends - both single and desperate to settle down ( no one nighters )...I'd love to set them up with someone who wants the same thing
good luck
maggie
2007-01-10 03:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by dublinrose37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's six billion people in the world. Statistics show that 51% are female, 49% are male. Simple math shows us that at least 2,940,000 people on the earth are male (probably more since the six billion count was due to census and those are never quite accurate, plus that was the year 2000 that they predicted it). In any case, math tells you that ONE of these 2,940,000 men has got to be for you simply because you're searching for one. Not every woman is seeking one, voluntarily or involuntarily, so the 2% we have more than men is not much to worry about.
Anyway, I just thought it would be fun to go all statistical.
My true advice is to just do what you love doing the most, and I guarantee there is a guy who does what you like to do. If you meet a guy in a place you don't normally go to or like, then it probably won't work out because that's his scene, not yours.
The internet is also a great help. Try EHarmony.com, or another matchmaking site.
Good luck!
2007-01-10 03:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are BUNCHES of great guys out there. The thing you have to realize, is just because someone is a great guy (or gal for that matter), that doesn't mean we're going to be attracted to them in a potentially romantic way.
Be patient. Get yourself out there so you can get to know people (take up a hobby that gets you around folks, do volunteer work, take a class or participate in a sport, etc). The more people you are around, and have some interests in common with you, the more likely you are to meet someone who you will fancy and who will feel the same about you.
2007-01-10 03:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes they are out there but you will not find them wasting their evenings away in pubs and clubs - they are more likely to be spending their time with more worthwhile pursuits.
Have you ever met a decent bloke when you were out in the pub on the pull??
You always meet them somewhere else or get introduced by a friend or something like that - try a different approach to try and meet a guy.
2007-01-10 03:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Problem right there. Lack of confidence and You are looking. As a result of lack of confidence you probably go out with the first person who asks you... and they turn out to be a jerk. Take your time. When dating, be yourself. Listen to him carefully when he speaks, pay attention his topics of interests, the way he speaks, the way he dress, his whole demeanor (that will tell you something about him) And not because u go out with someone, means u have to look for love. Love is something that will come with time. Take your time. Go out a few times, get to know the person. Let HIM ask you out. And be careful, seems like you have gone out with all sorts. If someone asks you out and a little voice tells u no, Don't go. Someone else will come along :-)
2007-01-10 03:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife on Yahoo! Personals. We have now been married for 3 years and things are great. If you go this route, just be careful when meeting for the first time.
2007-01-10 03:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Bates Water Gardens 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I'm one of 'em - 26 year old Dublin chap! The trick is to stop holding you're breath for it to happen, as soon as you stop caring and wishing the sooner it'll land on your lap!
2007-01-10 03:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww I love Dublin, I love Ireland, and Irish guys are so nice...had Irish bf myself...if you think you ve got it hard come to London and you'll see what specimens are around....
2007-01-10 03:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sheldon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!! But you can't look for him because you'll probably never find him. Just go out and have a good time. He'll find you.
2007-01-10 03:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by senn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋