I found a sexual letter written by my 16 year old son? What do I do?

Question

I found a letter on my sons desk where he was talking about some sick things. We are Hindu Indians and I may be naive of what he was saying but he wrote about being nude on his knees masturbating in front of 5 beautiful white girls while they waved their pinky finger at him? What is this about and should I get him counseling?

Answer 1

Yeah, he's making these stupid questions up. This is probably one of his dreams. Never happened - at least this guy.

Answer 2

No counseling. He is a male. We all masturbate. To what that is his thing. Just be sure you have had the TALK with him. Make sure if he is sexually active he is using condoms. It may be a little odd that he wrote this down, but hey I am a 30 yr old male and that sounds good to me. Like I said all males do it if they say they don't they a lying.

Answer 3

It's normal for guys that age to be umm.. horny. Don't get him counseling because it's not uncommon and your son might get mad and develop negative feelings towards you. Guys have different fantasies and i guess your son is particular about this one. Regardless of the difference, they are all sick fantasies, in my opinion, being a girl. Guys wouldn't think his fantasy would be sick at all. You could talk to your son about it, but this could lead to a very awkward situation. You should be open to your son and vice-versa. Be free to talk about matters about sex (there are limits of course!) with your son to educate him as well as allow him to talk to you if he has concerns.
HOWEVER, I THINK THE PINKY THING IS JUST WEIRD. But, hey! i'm a girl.

Answer 4

You should put the letter where you found it and pretend you never saw it. It is his personal letter and you shouldn't have read it. That's called snooping. Unless you think what he is doing could hurt someone or he is on drugs, there is never a reason to invade your son's privacy.

And your question is bullsh*it, because I have seen your other ones...grow up.

Answer 5

People are born sexual. Your son has reached into his puberty years and is on a new exploration. Don't intimidate him by disgracing his sexual fantasies and getting him couseling. Best not to even think about it ;0)

Answer 6

realize that he is 16 and is growing up and has some sexual fantasies, which is completely normal. I would say what he was describing would not even come close to be considered sick in this day and age. Let him be.

Answer 7

He's 16.......... They have Big Sexal drives at this age! ( well heck men do have big sexal drives at any age but this is when they really find it!!!)
Was it a story he wrote, or a letter to another girl?

If you want talk to him about it!
I am sure he doesn't need counseling! Like I said its normal.....

Answer 8

as a 15yr old girl myself with sum experience wit boys i dnt think this is reali anythin 2 b worried bout.hes probli jst written this dwn as it mite b bugging him and making him unable 2 concentrate.if he does *** 2 u and trys 2 talk 2 u bout his sexual desires dnt push him away cos dats the worse thing u can do.dnt hav a go at him try and c his point of view of the situation wen he cums 2 u.if he doesnt jst let it lie and try and pretend nuthins happened

Answer 9

I see where you're coming from. I think you should "forgive not forget" dont take action now but remember this incident and if others follow than talk to him, counseling probably wont help. And dont mention it now or else he'll be extra careful to not leave his things around

Answer 10

if they are waving their pinky finger, I think that they are indicating that his manhood isn't much.

I don't know - perhaps it's best to put the letter down, step away slowly and never mention this again to anyone....