I'm a Multi-business owner with lady trouble HELP LADIES!!! LADIES ONLY!!?

Question

I'm 27 years old and I pretty much have everything I have ever wanted, Except a good woman at my side. I'm a respectable person & I have a great sence of humor. For some reason when females look at me all they see is $$. All they see is the flashy cars and deafing sound systems screaming out of my rides. I want to be with someone that likes me for who I am and not what I have. because of this issue I have been single for almost 2 years. What am I missing? Or am I being to picky because I don't want to be used?

Answer 1

It sounds like you're pretty focused on money yourself, if your car is as fancy as you made it sound. Tell you what- borrow a Neon or a Kia from a friend for your next date, or bring that to the bar with you. Wear basic clothes, and leave off the rolex and other expensive accessories. In other words, don't flash your cash around if you don't want women who are just after your money. Act like a normal guy for a few days, and see if you can attract women that way. Why not join a gym or a club where no one knows you, and show up in beaten up sweats? See what happens.

After all, if you use your money to pick up girls, you get girls who just want your money. Good women don't pick guys because of their cash, they pick because of their personality. I'd like to think of myself as one of the good ones, and I've dated rich guys before- nothing is more of a turn-off then men who keep pointing out how rich they are. There isn't anything wrong with being wealthy- its just rubbing it in thats the turn-off. I dated a guy who was worth 250,000 (not bad for a 21 year old), and he was one of the most down to earth people i've ever met. There is nothing wrong with a date being pizza and bowling instead of an expensive gourmet resturant. Give it a try- you may be suprised what happens, and the difference in the women you date. Good luck- shoot me an e-mail if you have specific questions or you want more advice!

Answer 2

I think you answered this yourself. All you see are your $$$, your flashy cars and your deafining sound systems. Try vollunteering, going for walks in the park and reading in the library. If a conversation sparks don't mention a thing about what kind of money you make. I met a guy at a bar and I thought he was a hard worker who barely made any money, but I liked him - he never mentioned what he did. We went out a few times, and I was surprised he took me to nice places - I felt bad he was spending too much on me. Turned out he had a REALLY great job and the money that went with it- but he didn't feel the need to flaunt it.

Answer 3

I think when you have money you do have to be very selective in who you date because there are a lot of chicks out there that are going to want you for your money. Im not one of those people...thank god. I've dated someone with a lot of money before. At first I didn't know that he was wealthy because he is a pretty simple guy. No flashy trendy outfits or cars. Nice home but modest. He told me later which really didn't change the way I felt about him because I wasn't with him for his money. It didn't work out because he was a very jealous person. Anyway, maybe you should tone it down a little bit and not make it so obvious that you have money.

Btw, your avatar is cute!

Answer 4

Well two things, you either find a woman who has her own "stuff" and then she won't be so infatuated with yours, OR, you stop being so flashy. If you are flashing the $$ in their faces, what do you expect? Try going to different places to meet women, places where no one cares what you drive or what you wear. Do you have any hobbies? Join some clubs that revolve around that, and then you'll know that if you meet a potential date, the entire reason she finds you interesting to begin with, is that you share an interest, and that interest isn't money.

Answer 5

No, you are not being too picky. You have to be very selective when selecting someone you want to share your life with. Dress down, do not let your potential girl know that you have money. It is important to find someone who likes you for you and not your money. Don't flash your money, it sounds like you do. There is a special someone for everyone out there, but if she comes into the relationship knowing you have money then there will always be that doubt in the back of your mind. Good luck, just be low key and you will find your girl.

Answer 6

Try to find and date somebody outside your community. On your first date don't be flashy, dress simple, drive a simple car, take her out at a nice and not very expensive restaurant. Continue like this for a couple of dates or until you realize she likes you for what you are and not what you have and then if the relationship goes well tell her the truth and the reason as to why you had to play a little bit 'undercover'.

Answer 7

A spell checker?:)

Why don't you give up all your fortunes then and become a "average joe" maybe then you'll get someone who likes you for you?

Unfortunately the world today is twisted to such an extent that it has changed the way most women look at the world, as you say all they see is the cash benefits you can provide.

Stick to your morals, there's no respect in being used and its probably damaged your respect for women in the process! Sad but true! :(

I actually feel for you.

Answer 8

Turn that deafing sound system down that's screaming out of your rides" and you may find a respectable girl. Sounds to me like your flashing yourself around and flaunting your $$$, so that is just advertisement for the hounds!

Answer 9

You are right that some of women always want money, not you. It is hard to find a person that will fall in you, than your money. Take your time, meet more people till you find one. Maybe you can find a lady that has money like your, then date her because she don't need money. You have a right to be picky with women, its normal, just like me, i am picky with men. You missed nothing, all you have to meet more people, it will lead you to someone that will fall in YOU. Good luck. :)

Answer 10

You are looking in the wrong places. Try church socials or ask the gf or wife of a friend to fix you up with a respectable kind friend of hers. Join a club where people have the same interests as you: skiing, dancing, golf, etc. There are plenty of decent women out there.