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Question

i have been going through a lot of crap lately and its not getting any better. i cut myself last night. and it felt good. when i saw the blood trickle, it felt like some anger was pouring out. and i cant tell my mom cuz i know she wont care. should i tell my best friend? she might get scared and back away if she knows. but im tempted to go back and cut again cuz it felt good. not the actual cut, but after i did it. please help! and dont say get a doctor cuz i cant drive and i cant afford one.

Answer 1

Well I know how you feel (Well kinda) And im not gonna suggest a doctor. If your best friend is REALLY your best friend then you should tell, it will really make you feel better and about cutting yourself, to be honsted i don't think there's anything wrong with you cutting yourself but if it really feels good.. then that's weird.. BUT! If you have to then do it (It might prevent you from doing anything worse) but the main thing i recommand is you tell your friend.

Answer 2

I think you should go to your mom. If she doesn't care, go to another adult. Talk to an aunt, uncle, grandpatrent, teacher or any adult that you feel you can trust. My bet is that your mom cares more than you think she does. I know a lot of people cut themselves, especially young people. Here's where the problems come in: you end up with scars, you can get infections, you have to hide your arms and you may accidentally cut too deep and do some serious damage. This is a serious problem. I understand that it feels good to "let some anger pour out" but this isn't the way to do it. There are counselors, therapists and doctors that can help you learn other ways of getting your anger out. Maybe you can talk to your friend and see if her mother can help you. It is worth a try. Just don't keep quiet, this can get very bad very quickly. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

As you said, cutting yourself helped you to release some anger. People self-harm because it helps them cope with intense emotions: anger, stress, depression, whatever.

Obviously seeing a doctor would be the best option, but you can help yourself. You need to find another, healthier, way of coping. You might be bottling up your problems, in which case you should talk to someone about them (your best friend would be a good person). Exercising helps as well, so go for a walk or a jog. You could get a stress ball, or just punch a pillow when you're angry.

If you start to find that you can't help cutting yourself, get a pen and just draw on your arm or wherever it is you feel like cutting.

Answer 4

Many would likely read your post and assume that you are self destructive, but I disagree.
There are different kinds of people out there, those who relate to audio input, those who relate to visual input and in your case those who have discovered they relate to physical stimuli.

Without control however this can be damaging.
Based on your post, you have had some negative things happen and are looking for a way to resolve the feelings you are undergoing. When a person cuts themselves the body releases endorphins to manage the pain. If emotionally you are experiencing more pain than physical, the only thing you will notice is the endorphine release.
The question is not how to stop, but to realise whats going on and how to channel it. There are other less damaging activities that will release the same endorphions with positive results.
A few are :
extreme levels of exercise.

Self induced controlled fear (such as riding a roller coaster or if thats not enough an extreme sport such as base jumping or skydiving.)

Learn some form of martial arts. (very strenuous and in upper levels involves controlled fighting.)

Study some kind of dance. (real dance is extremely strenuous)

Skateboarding

If you are in still in school , try playing a physically aggressive sport. But don't settle for the "girls teams." Go for something thats fits your body type and insist on the "boys team" instead.
In one of the high schools I went to there was a female line backer that at 160lb. (all muscle) could take down a 230lb. guy.
(if you aren't the right body type to play football, play soccer and yes people get bruised around quite a bit that way)

All of these things involve a very astude control of fear and pain as well as concentration to be good at them. Some of them (such as martial arts) develop it far further.

The thing is whatever you choose, don't do it just to do it.
Make sure that you enjoy what you are doing, that it gives you the endorphine "fix" you seem to need, and that it doesn't hurt you without benifit. You should come away from it with a sense of accomplishment that helps to balance your existing issues.
Random cutting is very temporary and is very damaging with little overall accomplishment.
On a final note you should tell someone, not necissarily a doctor but someone you can speak to openly. If you are afraid that you will lose your best friend then she may not really be your best friend.
Whatever you do ,you need a change in your life that will bring you control, but at the same time you have an unrecognised gift in a physical sense that gives you an edge in certain things.
If you want to, you can use it. If it's not something that you feel you can relate to, then you can alter yourself chemically, but that step does involve seeing a doctor.
I personally think however that all too often these days, doctors look to "fix" people by "normalising" them, but normal is beige, it has nothing special to it.

Answer 5

what you are describing often is a way for people who find themselves helpless to control their lives get back some control through pain.

Though this usually passes with time, you really should get help with this- your school will be able to help you get the right people to talk with. Even though you want to keep it a secret, you may eventually decide that it's best to confront your problems more directly and eliminate the need to cut yourself. This is a scary step, but it will help if you get some advice from someone who has seen it before.

God bless you, and know that many people love you just as you are...

PS: Beware easy answers to difficult problems:
The right thing to do isn't always easy, and the easy thing isn't always right. You must take action, a little step at a time, to get back control. Don't worry if you fall back a little- every day we have a new start.

Answer 6

You should definitely tell someone...whether it be your friend or someone from school. Your school counselor or adviser would be able to help you find help if you are willing. Many programs that can help are free and could even be set up at your school so you don't have to worry about transportation. Please, please tell someone! Try not to cut yourself again, it may feel good temporarily but it will not fix anything, and actually it will make things worse in the long run. There are a lot of people that are available to help you if you don't think you could get the help from your mother.

Answer 7

telling your best friend might help. You may get more support from your friends that what you think. Besides, once they know, when you get the urge to cut, call your friends and have them talk you out of it. Hopefully that cutting last night was your first and last time you will do it. Instead, when you get the urge, write down your feeling in a journal. I heard that also takes away alot of steam, and helps calm you down. Tell your mom, she cares more than you think. Maybe she will get you some help. Please dont cut, read, write, call a friend, get on the net, anything to do but cut.

Answer 8

Cutting yourself seems like the latest fad these days. Is your life so messed up that you that don't care if you slip up and bleed to death. Because if your just doing it for relief.. because theres so much stress.. Find other ways. Exercise.. sweat instead of bleed. Talk? Let out all those emotions verbally instead of.. how you're doing it. Seek Professional help. It may feel good.. but do you want to die? Theres better ways to deal with your life. And cutting yourself isn't an solution on making your life better for you. it's a conclusion.

Answer 9

OK my daughter had the same problem and when we went go for help they told us that it a way for her to gain some control that her life was feeling out of control !! well Hun i think its gonna be OK first of all no more cutting there are other ways to make your self feel good !! i promise plz don't hurt your self ! and i really do think if its not your mom you need to find someone to talk to about this any one a adult who will listen try calling a hot-line or what can it hurt to call a local mental health facility at least they can talk to you . OK ?! and remember that your loved and a child of god ! he loves you !

Answer 10

Please don't cut again. I know you want to and I know it feels good, but you can't. Its not the way to handle things. I'm really sorry that you are going through a really tough time. But you do need to tell someone. If your scared about telling your friend, then go to a school counselor. You need to talk to someone. If you can't find anyone you can trust, try a crisis hot line like 1-888-711-TEEN.

Good luck and my prayers are with you.