the guy that i'am dateing is a virgin i like him alot and i want to share that thing you call sex with him but i don't know if i want to be his first. all my friends say take it but i'm not sure. i know that when i lost it i wanted it to be special i want the same for him. what should i do.
2007-01-10 02:57:49 · 22 answers · asked by cookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't help you.
2007-01-10 03:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, ask him what he would like if he was to lose his virginity in passing conversation, he might like candles and a bath before hand. So then you know you can make it special and memorable for him. It would be gud to take a guy's virginity, interesting. Wait till he wants to and don't pressurise him. Also, make sure that you if you're thinking bout taking his virginity, you stay by his side and possibly love him before taking this step....also you know he's gonna be bad, and the sex won't heat up for a while after your first time till he gets used to it. If you're having doubts, move on and keep him as a friend.
2007-01-10 11:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't willing to make it special for him, then you need to let him find a girlfriend who will.
What you're basically saying is, I want his first time to be with someone else who may not care about him so I can put it on him later on. That is...can I be mean for a second?...I can?...Good...STUPID!!!!
Do what you have to do to make it special for him and protect yourself in the process. The boy is D&D free and very teachable at this point. You should plan ahead and rock his world!
2007-01-10 11:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lemar J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife was my first. She made it special for me.
Now, here is something for you to consider: if you do it, you can make sure it's special for him. If you don't do it, there are only two options: let him sleep with someone else, or break up with him so someone else can do it. Do you really want him sleeping with someone else while you're dating? And if you break up with him (or wait until he breaks up with you) then you have no control over how special it is. The next girl might not care how special it is for him and just do it to get it over with or get him drunk or whatever.
2007-01-10 11:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person's virginity is their's to give away and not yours to take away. Let him take the lead in this issue. In my opinion, taking a person's virginity is like rape and has no place in a loving, respectful relationship. If he is waiting for marriage, respect that desire, and don't focus on sex having to be a part of the relationship. If you can't, then move on.
2007-01-10 11:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was at one time in the same position. I had the respect that you have to have it special for him like it was for me. I decided to not take his, simply because he cared more for me than i did him. It would not have been as special for him as it would be if he were with someone who loved him.....Do you care enough about him to make it special? I think thats what you gotta ask yourself. I think its great that you are being unselfish and thinking about him. If only men thought as us women do. Good Luck in whatever you choose.
2007-01-10 11:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do whatever YOU want.
i dated a guy once that was a virgin & i liked him a lot & ended up being his first. afterward he told me that he only went out with me cuz he didn't want to lose his virginity to someone dumb. (he broke up with me a couple weeks later) i didn't quite know how to take that, but i think i was used. don't let him do that to you.
2007-01-10 11:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I assume you are over 16. Make it special for him. Be his teacher, have fun!
2007-01-10 11:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took a guys virginity once and I don't think that i would ever do it again.
2007-01-10 11:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by lex83201 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men dont care about it being special they just want to lose it as fast as possible.
2007-01-10 11:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by fizz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not up to you to decide for him who he want's to be his first. Guys aren't as concious as girls of their first. He'll remember you alright. you just better make sure you rock his world or he'll be telling horror stories of his "first." Have fun!
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-10 11:02:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋