I have recently been seeing a guy for bedroom fun, didn't plan it that way, it just seems to have started and gone in that direction. Truth is, I am starting to like him, he is a genuinely nice guy....not that many around. I have had the pleasure of his company four times now and a planned fifth. Do you think it can ever turn into something more or am I wishful thinking?
2007-01-10 02:46:04 · 33 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just go gentle on me, only ever been in two long term relationships, he is only the THIRD guy I have ever slept with, keep your bad remarks to yourself please x
2007-01-10 02:54:45 · update #1
Of course it can. Just because you started backwards doesn't mean you can't swing around and drive straight. This is just a situation where the need to plain old sex has brought you together in a more emotional aspect and if he feels the same way then you should run with it.
2007-01-10 02:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our society has recently been confirming this new type of relationship, but the truth is the only thing you are getting yourself into is a chance to have hurt feelings, std's, and distrust in the person that you are doing this with if a relationship does come around from just being bed buddies. You don't know if he is committed to you, and if that is the kind of relationship he is looking for he will get bored or jump ship as soon as there is any issue bigger than sex. Sorry to rain on your parade, but if you want a real relationship respect yourself enough to establish a personal relationship before an infatuation or lust.
2007-01-10 02:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might happen but then again it might not. I had a few hoes on the go a few months back. I was meeting 3 of them on different nights for a bit. Two of them turned into stalkers but and I had to buy a new phone to get rid of them. The third one I liked and went out with a few times but then people knew that she had a reputation and I was getting laughed at when I was seen in public with her so I told her where to go too. At the minute I'm staying away from girls that are known as hoes as a partner for just a bit of fun can't ever be anything more
2007-01-10 02:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can turn into more. The question is how does he view you? Does he think of you just as a bed partner? Do you know anything about his life, like if he has a girlfriend? Perhaps you should try to make a date with him that is public, and doesn't involve the bedroom. See what he says. If he agrees to see you in a date atmosphere, then there is a great chance. If he refuses and wants to stick to the bedroom, then you have your answer. Good luck!!
2007-01-10 02:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sierra S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you'll know is to bite the bullit and talk to him about it. Most relationships of this nature tend to end because sooner or later 1 person wants more and the other doesn't (women usually want more). That is the reality.
If he is a genuine nice guy like you say he is he will welcome the fact that you have started talking about it as men find it hard to show their feelings. You might even find that he wants the same thing. Just be prepared.
2007-01-10 02:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by thesaxman50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started the relationship wrong. Even if you do date him officially, his mind will always be thinking of you as just another piece of ***. Prolly won't last long if his mentality stays in that mode. So I suggest not even trying unless he moves you in that direction. Let him do the leading and you just sit back and wait for push forward into other things. If it doesn't happen soon though, I suggest you either move on or use him for what you want him for in then bedroom cuz that's all it'll ever be for him.
2007-01-10 02:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by LoLo B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking the wrong people you need to ask him maybe you are scared to loose the companion so you do not want to ask him but you can hint or suggest a movie and see what happens and fill him out. Guys are more capable of the bed room fun with a girl and just keeping it that way. Keep that in mind and try not to get to hurt...
2007-01-10 02:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by ?asker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but don't push the issue until you see how he feels. I was in a relationship like that with a Navy Seal years back that lasted about a year. But he wouldn't commit or admit any feelings for me. I started to date a man from work that I knew for years and was falling for him, and told the Navy seal to take a walk. He tried to stop me from moving on. But I've been married to the guy from work for 13 years now. I still wonder about the Navy Seal's where abouts, but don't regret moving on. LOL....sorry, my point is, go with your instincts, they're always right. Don't act on impulse. Maybe hang on to him and see where this goes.
2007-01-10 02:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had wanted a proper relationship he would have asked for one.
He's probably loving having no-strings attached sex and will run a mile away if you mention a relationship.
You could always say that you no longer want to sleep with him and see what he says. If he's OK with it, then you are obviously just sex to him, but if he gets a bit upset it might suggest that he likes you more than just a bed buddy.
2007-01-10 02:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by sciencechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly sounds like a possibility, just don't stress and go with the flow as long as you feel comfortable in the relationship. If you start with the wants and needs too soon you may give him the wrong impression
2007-01-10 03:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋