Hi friends, i was in love with a girl for the past 8 years. we were not having a kid. Thatz all. life was wonderful. Suddenly she got a job in a city and she left me a year back..things changed...she moves out with all sorts of guys..allows guys to stay with her over night and come home drunk..and have started smoking too (We are in India!!!!)..and so she has changed a lot. She screams at me, even for my slightest mistake. She says, that she is not any more interested in me and want to settle her own life. She was also not loyal to me sexually. But in sex, she always said, that I satisfied her the most. She is now going out with many guys and is totally leaving me..rather deserted me. I did so much for her. I can never explain it in words. I DID MANY THINGS..WHICH NO ONE ON THIS EARTH CAN BEAR OR DO FOR A GIRL WHOM THEY Love. I have also decided to leave her. But I WANT HER TO COME BACK TO BE BEGGING AFTER YEARS. I KNOW THAT NO ONE CAN KEEP HER HAPPY. I WANT HER AFTER YEARS..WILL SHE?
2007-01-10 02:42:09 · 13 answers · asked by Klizzi i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh. I feel sorry for you.. Look.. the point is You LOVE her.. and she LOVED you too..That was not any affair which kids do.. you had been together for 8 long year.. remember those days when u were together.. weren't they best of your life.. Look.. you still smile when u see her smiling without even knowing the reason!! so.. first of all.. just remove that thought of leaving her from your mind.. and letz think abt the ways to bring her back..
Hey. I am not saying that she did not insulted you.. or you have not bear her.. but the point is something else.. Understand this point.. if you love someone and she is on wrong way(what u said smoking, drinking etc.).. then it becomes u r responsibility to help her overcoming this all.. and help her bringing her life back on the right path.. Imagine yourself being at her place.. would your father have just left you to get ruined?? No.. he would have struggled to help you as he love you.. This is the same case.. sorry for taking this example if I have hurt you. but i think you got what I meant..
Now.. how to do that?? Ask yourself.. No one else can help you on this. I can just show you the way and you will have to be there taking it as most important challenge of your life.. First, find out the reason of her strange behaviour.. may be you do not look so good.. or you earn less.. or you do not have say.. or Bad Boy syndrome.. whatever it is.. identify that.. and fix it.. then.. let her feel and understand that how much she is important to you.. You can use all those wicked ways to bring her back. Everything is fare in war and love..and i really mean that..
How can I say all this to you?? Ha.. I have been in similar condition sometime back. and we are together again..
So.. Good Luck for your new challange and let me know if i can do anything else for you.. Bye..
Abhi.
2007-01-11 14:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Abhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think U should not beg for her to be back but instead what a bad experience wth U, U should carry on wth ur life and try to venture out ur life and meet different ppl. Why spoil ur life wth a girl that doesnt have self respect....and the most she does not love U at all. There is nothing left ...so be happy as there is lot yet to see in life besides than all this
2007-01-10 13:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Prav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry for u but just leave her n get on with ur life she is not wht u need even after she comes back to u it is waste because u r hurting because she has not shown u love n respect u deserve n its best u look for another who makes a difference in ur life forget about the past n go on into the new future without any traces of hurt,betrayal,unhappiness. n dont keep a grudge against her she may come or not but dont take her back she will make u unhappy. dont feel u r responsible for her.
2007-01-10 03:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by ahsu254 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand where ur coming from, but u gotta remember that if shes no longer happy with u and shes seeing other guys then whats the point of really trying to have her back. all shes gonna do is hurt u over n over again. i know its tough but u gotta move on with ur life, u might say u love her and i beleive that, but does she love u back? think bout that. a relationship is a 50/50 team work. if ur doin 100/0 then obviously shes not interested in being with u. and u also gotta be careful if shes sleeping round with other guys, u dont wanna get any STD's so just move on bro.
2007-01-10 02:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. DOn't take her back. The pain will go away with time. I know it's a cleche and has been said before, but it's true. Get on with your life. Don't let her back into it. WOrk extra or involve yourself in many things to keep you busy until you have gotten her out of your system. Life's too short...live it forget her.
2007-01-10 02:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After ten years, i in my opinion think of you ought to work out a therapist. If it have been six months, i might say provide it time. yet time hasn't made a distinction right here. you're so injury which you're lacking different skill women human beings on your existence. So please bypass consult from somebody. Make an appointment on the instant.
2016-10-06 22:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold your breath waiting for her. She's lost respect for you as you explain on her behavior. This relationship is no good for you. Forget what you did for her and go on with your life. Don't be obsessive about this realtionship. It could ruin your life. You can do better1 Good Luck!!
2007-01-10 02:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by srnandan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend, just start with your new life without her. Trust me. Don't loose a time. Life is so short. We must be happy!
2007-01-10 02:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by VERITAS 33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her.
You need to go on with your life, not obsess about past lovers.
We've all had them, we all have to get over them and focus on today.
2007-01-10 02:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over... she's moved on with her life, and now you must do the same.
2007-01-10 02:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋