So, my baby daddy left me because I gained too much weight during my pregnancy. This was about a month ago. So far I am down 15lbs with about 50 more lbs to lose by the summer. I really want revenge and I don't know if its wrong. I mean, I want him to see me one day looking really good and doing my thing because I really want him to notice me again....not so we can get back together, just so I can tell him no I don't want you.
He really hurt my feelings the way he broke up with me, he tells me he needs some space, and then three days later he's got a new girlfriend driving his car around while my daughter and I are stuck taking the bus everywhere. The girl he's with is totally opposite from me; and I am shocked he's even with her. I thought I was his type, but I guess not. I love him so much, and he hurt me so badly, I lost my best friend......and I just don't know what to do any more. I am so damn frustrated with my situation!!!!!
2007-01-10 02:38:57 · 23 answers · asked by Stefi13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Always remember that what goes around, comes around. I've lived long enough to see it happen all the time. Someday, somehow this "man" will get what he deserves for hurting you and your child. You may not know when it happens or how it will happen but I promise you he will feel the pain that you now feel.
For your own safety and peace of mind forget the revenge and make a new life for yourself and your child. You will NEVER regret it in the end.
2007-01-10 02:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by SOCKIONE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your weight was an excuse, if he really loved you it wouldn't have mattered, and he would have stuck by you and supported you while you tried to lose it--and loved you the same if you didn't. My husband complained during my whole pregnancy because I only gained 18 pounds!!! He thought I should have gained more! He loves me regardless. Sounds like he already had a girl in mind when he left, he sounds like a shallow person who you and your daughter are too good for anyway. Revenge can be sweet--but stay rid of him--if you lose weight--lose it for yourself--you and that baby are more important than he will ever be, or ever realize. You are a gift, that is why they call today the present!!! Remember to love yourself, love your daughter and if you happen to brush by this loser again--it will be sweet revenge--if he sees how happy you are, how good you look because you are confident about yourself--sexy is a frame of mind not a look!! You are all that--and remember that no matter what man is in your life!!! Good Luck!
2007-01-10 02:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what I'm about to say is probably what everyone has been telling you, but if can't get over the fact that you put on some weight carrying HIS child then you don't need to be with him anyway. I think he's using your weight as an excuse. I know you love him and he is your baby's daddy, but now you need to concentrate on your baby and yourself. This is the best time to focus on what is important in your life. And loosing the weight should be something for you and what you wanna do. Because if you loose that weight and show him, yeah it will bring you satisfaction in the short run, but will fade and you will still be hurt at the end of the day. So right now just do you and enjoy your life with your baby. Something far better than your ex will come your way!
2007-01-10 02:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took at least 9 months to gain the weight. So take your time. Your child should be coming first. which isn't what the father was thinking. And about him @#$% him. If he doesn't love ya when your fat he never will.
Success is the best revenge. But you losing weight..... might not be success. I know you know that your life is probably better without a dead beat dad, loser of a man around nagging at you. Telling you crap. Cus that is all he has to offer.
Go and be the best mom to your adorable baby.
Forget the loser
2007-01-10 02:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by LESLIE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey sounds like you found a boy not a man. Remember that and raise your child right. Revenge will come in time because you will be raised above by doing what you can right. And weight gain in pregnancy is normal! First off the extra blood needed, fluid needed, baby etc it is normal don't trip... wanting to loose the extra weight is good but make sure you take care of yourself.
2007-01-10 02:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the revenge. it will only be with you longer the more you think of it, put it passed you, do what you want for YOURSELF AND YOU LIL GIRL. Try meeting another for the way you are, and do not flaunt the new one only for the ( revenge purpose) that not being true to other guy.Odd how so many look at weight etc , only to have it turn out neg. hurting the other. Now wife and I married 40 some years, sure pot belly, wrinkles ( talking about me, not her ( she changed also, but love her still, and never make a remark pertaining to our changing as we get older. good luck
2007-01-10 02:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not seek revenge. It is never, I mean never, the answer. Use your frustration or anger(I hate to use that word) as a motivation to pick yourself up and make yourself the kind of person you want to be. If that means losing weight and making yourself more attractive then do it. Your satisfaction will come when you run into your ex and he is admiring you. You will be with another guy at the time. He will realize what he did was wrong.
2007-01-10 02:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Blue-Eyed Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Stefanie, it is normal for you to feel like taking revenge on him. I can tell you this with 100% certainty because last year i too lost my boyfriend for the same reason. I was really hurt and was depressed and lost self respect. But i have overcome that. Why should i try to waste my time in revenge on a man who doesnt care abt me at all? Now it is clear that he doesnt care abt u. so dont bother abt him at all. you definitely can loose weight, but for your own health reasons. This revenge idea will automatically wean away. becuse now i dont have any thoughts of taking revenge upon him. Try to loose weight, be happy for urself and ur baby. i am sure you are going to find a better partner pretty soon. Imagine a slimmer stephanie, with her abay and a perfect partner enjoying a happy life!! and suppose ur ex chances to meet you. well, lady, that is ur revenge!!a sweet revenge, devoid of pain and anger. Hope to meet a slimmer and happy stefanie soon
2007-01-10 02:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by lilac4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if weight was the only reason this P.O.S left you than i would say you're better off just ignoring him and trying to get over him. it will take time of course but i think you should just try to let go of this revenge idea. continue to do your best with the weight loss and look at it as an investment in a better man not revenge toward to old. use your workouts to focus your frustration on it will help you to relax and turn your attention to finding someone who will be true to you instead of wasting time showing up the old P.O.S for a man you used to have.
2007-01-10 02:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best revenge is getting over him regardless of your weight. You won't have to go out of your way to let him know it. He will probably be around to see your child (or he should be) and he'll see it. He'll see it every time you tell him he can have the baby for the weekend because you have "plans". He doens't need to know what the plans are, just that you have gotten on with your life and that you don't feel the need to share yourself with him anymore should be enough!
2007-01-10 10:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋