I have grabbed the attention of a 27 year old guy recently. He's adorable, totally polite, accomplished, great outlook to the future and thinks I am the cats pajamas to boot. I am 39-to be 40 this year, but definatley look younger than my age, most people say late 20's or early 30's. I don't know how far to take this, and I don't want to ultimatley be a heartbreaker if the age difference becomes to evident between us. I already feel I am robbing the cradle a bit. What do you think I am to him? He claims he can't stop thinking about me, wants to be with me all the time-but is this more about passion and being with a older professional woman? Do you think its more about the physical for him? How realistic is my Demi/Ashton affair? Should I just go with the flow and keep an open mind?
2007-01-10 02:26:50 · 14 answers · asked by candygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow-thanks for all the great responses. I am new to Yahoo answers, great experience so far. I believe I should go with the flow-forget so much about social norms, have fun, enjoy this experience. His accomplishments and pursuits are quite outstanding for his age-ivy league grad, worked at top tier brokerage firm, and is part of the special forces. He is definatley someone who is determined to be successful in whatever he pursues-very admirable. Through all his accomplishments, he shakes a bit in my presence and I find it so flattering and extremely cute.
Keep the responses coming..they are extemely helpful.
2007-01-10 02:59:42 · update #1
Yes you should keep an open mind. Love doesnt just come by age it also comes form the heart and the heart doesnt know about the age diffrence. as long as youre honest with him you shouldnt break his heart.
2007-01-10 02:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you do not need money to have a relationship with a girl. If a girl likes you for your money, it is not a good relationship from the start. People who act like that when you tell them you have no relationship experience are just ignorant. It is NOT a turn-off for most people, it might even be a turn-ON for some people. Most people like unique people. They do not care if you live up to a standard type of wannabe person. You're probably a pretty mysterious, deeper kind of type and many people will respect/love that in you. If you find the right girl who is the same as you, you will probably have a 90% deeper connection/bond as most of the "cool" people who have had millions of dates. Trust me, having many dates is not a guarantee on happiness.
2016-05-23 04:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for him, although he might really like you. I am 26 and have dated older girls to. I have fallen in love with an older women and my intentions were pure. Like with any other women I date. The only thing is I found that the older girl would feel very insecure when I looked at somebody younger or when I casually chatted to a girl my own age. She would feel that I was not interested in her. At the end it never worked out as well as I thought family got involved and we broke up. Maybe you could make this work it is up to the both of you.
2007-01-10 02:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a reverse situation in the past. I was the 25 yo guy and she was 39. It was actually a very nice relationship and when we did split it wasn't because of age issues. I would say go for it as long as you are prepared for the comments of family and friends...other than that mine experience was unforgettable.
2007-01-10 02:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think you should examine your character a bit. You are probably way flattered by his attention. It's really not a good idea for you to do this, which you would know if you stopped to think about it. Lots of guys have a fantasy about older women, but women are, or should be, smart enough not to fall for it. Try grab the attention of someone around your age and maturity level; you'll be way better off.
2007-01-10 02:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel you're in the same place as far as maturity then i don't see why not. an age difference would only be a big obstacle in your relationship if you were a lot older than him emotionally/psychologically/whatever. i know a couple whose parts are 23 and 34 and they have a great relationship. so it's definately possible...
2007-01-10 02:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Candygirl, I do believe you really answered your own question, in my opinion at least. For him you're probably the best woman he's ever been with on many levels. Your mature, your expectations have been tempered by life in general so he probably feels extremely comfortable around you. He's probably having the best sex he's experienced to date in life so he's probably felling pretty confident as well. You are to him the coming of age chapter in his life. Just take it as it comes and let it take its course. There may be at times a feeling that this Dem/Ash affair will stick. It may, it may not. Be real and have fun. Good luck, Candygirl.
2007-01-10 02:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see anything wrong with it. You are only as old as you feel and you obviously feel young. I would just see what happens. Good luck to you.
2007-01-10 02:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by Blue-Eyed Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are both adults! So, just go with the flow and if it doesn't work out! Then I least you had some fun!
2007-01-10 02:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares, have a blast! i am 33 and i would date a good looking 40+ year old woman, they are hot!
2007-01-10 02:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Brian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. You are young looking and young at heart. You should feel fine dating someone his age....he is an adult. My wife is 15 yrs older than I am and we have an incredible marriage and relationship. She was much more worried about the age difference than I was. It doesn't bother me a bit because my wife is beautiful and sexy and we are best friends. Why,as adults should the age difference matter if you get along great and have plenty in common. Go for it and enjoy! It may be the best thing that ever happened to you.
2007-01-10 02:34:56 · answer #11 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋