Can someone tell how to get a 10 month to sleep in his bed?

Answer 1

I have seen this situation on Super Nanny a few times, and what she has the parent do is put the child in the crib or bed, turn out the light, and the parent sits on the floor by the bed and does no interacting with the child whatsoever except to put the child back into bed if they get out. The reason for the parent being in the room is to let the child know that they are not being "abandoned". It is critical that the parent does no other interacting (no speaking, no touching, just a presence) with the child except to put the child back into bed. The parent stays by the bedside until the child has worn themselves out and falls asleep. The first couple of nights are hard because the child fights sleeping in their own bed, and the parent is sitting by the crib/bed for a long time, having to ignore the child crying, begging, throwing huge fits. However, it was miraculous to see the progress after the first couple of nights. The time spent sitting by the crib/bed got shorter and shorter until the child fell asleep completely on their own, in their own bed without the parent in the room. The Nanny also recommended a nightly "routine", i.e. bath, story-time, then bed-time, with as little stimulation as possible, etc. She recommended no "aids" for them such as music or toys...AND that the child goes to bed at a reasonable time, and it's the same time every night. Routine and consistency are key. Good luck!

Answer 2

Get this book: Good Night, Sleep Tight: The Sleep Lady's Gentle Guide to Helping Your Child Go to Sleep, Stay Asleep and Wake Up Happy by Kim West, Joanne Kenen

Answer 3

When my third child was born there was a panicky sound to her cry. Like she was abandoned. I made it my job to prove to her that her world was safe. She slept with us, as had our boys, I held her all the time either in my arms or a sling. By 5 months her whole demeanor changed. By 18 months she was the most independant child you could imagine and today she's a confident, cabable mother herself.

My point? The more security you can give a child in infancy, the stronger the foundation of confidence. Don't make your baby wake up without you if that is his issue (on the contrary some prefer their cribs and only cry to be gotten up) you disturb his sleep since he knows you won't be there when he wakes up. By 2 1/2 or 3 if it's still an issue then having his own youth bed with his own special blanket and teaching him to make his bed (caring for it) plus a bedtime routine like a story or prayer will usually do it. They grow up so fast. Not many college students still sleep with mommy. Don't rush him.

Answer 4

if you have a normal routine at bedtime continue that. When its time to put him to sleep just lay him in his bed. He will cry and it will be very hard at first, you'll want to go in and get him. If after 15 mins go in and reassure him (don't take him out). It will take a few times of doing this and a few days as well. Could take longer. It probably does sound mean and possibly won't work. I did it with my son when he was about 9 months old and he was fine. He didn't loose trust in me or anything.

Answer 5

Check out the Baby Whisperer book. Either one one for Toddlers OR...the one "Solving all your Problems from Iifancy Through Toddlerhood. By Tracy Hogg. I bought this book to aid in me in helping my child stop hitting.
This baby has been 'trained' not to sleep in their own bed now they have to be trained to do so. The onder they are the harder it is so the sooner you start the better. First suggestion is having them nap in their own bed...
It takes 3 days to break a bad habit or instil a new one. Put the baby in their own bed...let them cry for a bit. (Use Hogg's pick up put down method) Comfort them and then back to their own bed. By 3 days...they will know that is where they belong. This BIGGEST thing is schedule! A routine will help!

Answer 6

I tried for a week. It was a terrible experience for my son. I have found he sleeps fine by himself, just not in a crib or playyard. I finally decided to raise my son by my standards, not everyone else's. I co-sleep and until my son is a little older (15 months now) and ready for a big boy bed, he'll be with me. Lots of people are going to tell you to let your child cry it out, but I believe that is mean and simply does not work for all children. You run the risk of them losing trust in you. In the end, do what "feels" right for you and your child.

Answer 7

Music on the way to sleep is best. If you're not a singer, get some good CD's and sit with the baby til s/he falls asleep.

Answer 8

i put the toddler bed right next to my bed and bought him his favorite character sheets to get him excited for his own bed but when it is actually time for bed i act like if i am going to bed to so he won't feel alone once he is a sleep i slip out of bed .

Answer 9

Persistence and consistency on your part. If they keep getting up, keep putting them back and don't cave in. Kids are smart and they'll give up after a few days. It'll be easier at 10 months than when they're older!