Men only please.. What messages is he trying to send.?

Question

My b/f and I got into a fight. I completely lost it and said something in anger and deeply regret it now. ( I told him I hated him for not trying his hardest and that I would never forgive him). We both apologized to each other later. He then told me he wanted to be alone for a few days. I thought he would make contact after a few days but he didn't. Now it's been a little over two weeks. I've heard nothing from him even though I tried to call him and e-mail him telling him I was worried about him and hoping to talk things out with him. Still nothing from him yet. Is he trying to tell me it is all over? Or does he think he needs more time to be in his"cave". What should I do? I need some insights from men's perspective. Thanks.

Answer 1

Let's see, you just told a man who obviously enjoys being with you that he's inadequate. And that you hate him because he is inadequate. And that you'll never forgive his inadequacies. Am I the only one who sees the aftermath of the use of a WMD?

Telling a man you don't think he's up to the task, when he's probably doing all he knows how to do is about like taking a hammer to his family jewels.

Then you add one of the strongest emotions there is, hate, and you tell him how much you hate him, not his actions, or attitude, but him specifically, to his face? Why didn't you just shoot him?

Now you expect to be able to say harsh words, say a simple apology and expect everything to be hunky doory? He's not in his cave. You are!! He's avoiding you, and hopefuly permanantly, and I don't blame him.

As far as a relationship is concerned, no matter what would happen in the future, he's always going to think that his actions are inadequate. That he's never going to be able to do enough or be enough for you. He's always going to be one action, one word, one emotion from being hated all over again. Who wants that kiind of pressure?

You need to take your lumps just like the ones you gave and move on. And what you should do is learn from your actions, and let him go on about his business. He's obviousy letting you go on about yours.

Answer 2

This is a "Game Method" (I am no longer going to call who invented this process in view that it is a debate within the Game global). The process follows as this: A man sees 2 women an eight and a ten. The man might move in be as gorgeous persona intelligent as viable however he might simplest pay awareness to the eight as a substitute than the ten to make the ten be jealous when you consider that 10s don't deliver 8s to any occasion until they understand they'll be hit on because of assessment. The 10 didn't get to wherein she is until she is a usual cosmetic or she has labored herself rough to get to that degree and he or she might wish acknowledgment. To be deprave of acknowledgment is a worry of the ten and she is going to do some thing to reap it. If you don't uncover this man gorgeous in any approaches simply stick up for your self and move uncover a different man who admire you when you consider that this process too can backfire and the man will take it as a misplaced.

Answer 3

Although I'm a lady, I think I'd still help you out. Two weeks?!!! ****, girl, don't call him or email him. Think about it, if he's getting pursued by you, then he's got you right where he wants you. BUT if you turn the tables, and don't call at all no matter how much you're tempted, and then he'll think - hang on a min, she would normally call me by now and then probs call you. He's probs trying to scare you, and frankly, he's doing a good job at it. Just pull back, and let him worry bout you, if he doesn't within another two weeks, then it's over.

Answer 4

i think there was a serious argument between you before the fight and this has been going on before but reached a limit when you both got into a fight this is what i think, i think he was trying to avoid the fight but it happened any way but now he is reconsidering his decision for being with you on long term basis so you need to analyze your relationship and past time and see if you were happy with him or not see life is give and take so you have to sacrifice some thing to get some thing just go talk to him and ask him about his long term and short term goals and see if they matchh with yours then you will be able to make the decision easily

Answer 5

I know you said men only...but I was in a similar situation with my ex boyfriend. He said he needed time. I didn't know what that meant. I started to freak out because I didn't know what was going on. So out of desparation I broke it off with him because he wouldn't answer my calls or text messages or anything. Looking back on things now I shouldn't have been sooo quick to give up. I should of just gave him his time because like 2 weeks later I wanted to get back together with him and he said NO! Now I'm wondering if I would of just gave him time and not freaked out would we still be together?? I hoped that helped....

Answer 6

It sounds to me like he has lost interest in you. His behaviour suggests that he hasn't forgiven you. He's probably indicating that he doesn't want a relationship with you. Just hang in there and if he doesn't come around within a month then move on.

Answer 7

people fight and you say things you might regret. if he is still mad then he needs to grow up and you should go have fun and not worry about it. he sounds immature and i think you gave him the out he was looking for.

Answer 8

Hun, from the sounds of it. He's saying goodbye and has his running head start. I could be wrong...but thats just the picture thats being painted for me.

Answer 9

Go under his window at night and serenade him with a love song. You have to do it real loud so lots of people hear. When he sees you are willing to embarrass yourself for him he will take you back.

Answer 10

He don't want to try hard, he is lazy. He likely thinks you are pushing him AND he don't want to be pushed. He is gone. Forget him and move on.