She told me she needed space after a fight, when I ask her if we are still together she says she doesn't know she needs to make up her mind, but wants to continue to date me once a week and limit other communications. I asked her directly.
She told her best friend that we were together and just starting over taking things really slow.
What is the truth???
2007-01-10 02:02:39 · 15 answers · asked by Tunasandwich 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she doesn't want her friend going after you...
2007-01-10 02:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are both the truth. She is slowing things down by only once a week dates, and limiting other communication, just like when you first met probably. She needs to make up her mind if you are the one for her, so instead of just cutting you out while she decides, she is continuing your relationship. It's almost like she is giving you a chance to fix it and to do it right this time. I don't know what the fight was about, but in my experience, women are more concerned with how you handle the fight and what you do after it than they do about what the fight was about.
2007-01-10 10:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont see the contradiction...once a week and limit communications..that is "taking things slow" for me.
As an advice I can tell you that you have been taking things too fast, to serious. Probably you have been acting too needy. She has lost attraction for you. If another guy comes up right now and talks nice to her, you re history.
How do you fix this? By playing the game. She doesnt call, you dont call. Dont date the day she says...skip that day and maybe 1 day after you can say...i want to have a soda...wanna come up? (you re not asking her out, you re going out and asking her to join you, see the difference?).
Since you have been all needy, she feels she has the control of the relationship. Get the control back, how? control yourself, quit the needyness..stop sayig things like I need you, i love you.
play cool.
2007-01-10 10:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants her freedom not just her space. Maybe she is even thinking of dating again and wants everyone else out there to think you are together.. could only mean ..she does not want anyone else, like maybe her best friend to get any ideas that since you two are through she can date you.. Hmmm.. sounds not nice.. I would approach her and ask her directly and if she cannot give you a straight answer, move on and start dating other girls..Just tell her that now you need your space.. Good Luck
2007-01-10 10:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be dealing with some personal issues about what she wants out of life. It sounds like she is making a temporary split but is not leading you along so if she decides to move on it wont be a shock to you. The fact she is telling her friend that your still together is a good sign that she still cares and wants to be together she just may need to stretch her wings for a little while. Although you also need to consider the fact that perhaps she is thinking seriously of moving on and that its her best friend, emphasis on her, that is giving you false information just to protect your feelings. In a case like this you just have to hope for the best and expect the worst. And don't put to much thought into information you get from her best friend because she will look out for her interests and not yours.
2007-01-10 10:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well dating once a week and limiting communications does sound like starting over and taking things really slow. So I don't think she was telling you 2 something different.
2007-01-10 10:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls opinion. Maybe your smothering her. Best thing ignore her. It will kill her! She is playing head games with you. She don't want her friend to think you are available. If you are giving her too much attention she isn't appreciating you move on. If having a relationship is a struggle then it isn't meant to be. Love is simple you have ups and downs but not just over a small fight.(unless you cheated) do you just want to quit things. Don't let her string you along. Act like you don't care and she may open her eyes. I promise it works.
2007-01-10 10:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by holliemay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that she wants to hold on to you, while she's looking for a new boyfriend. She doesn't want her best friend to know what's going on, so she's telling her you're still together. If you don't want to be dumped, drop this girl now and avoid the rush. She's playing games, my friend.
2007-01-10 10:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may not want to tell her b/f the whole truth because friends tend to give a lot of useless info. Or maybe she doenst want anyone to think you guys are not together.
2007-01-10 10:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by FASHION*DIVA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would believe your girlfriend. maybe she is insecure at the moment..did u do something to her to make her want to take things more slow or spend time away from u...
and why are u going to her best friend? sounds like there is something already wrong with the relationship and maybe she has lost her trust in you.
2007-01-10 10:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what she tells her best friend is the truth. she is just mad at you and trying to piss you off so she says that to you. but best friends don't like to each other.
2007-01-10 10:07:02 · answer #11 · answered by sweetsourchikin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋