I have recently turned 18 in a long term relationship (2 years) and with a social group of 19-21 year olds ( me being the youngest) my Boyfriend went to uni in 2005, Already arranged before our relationship. However every week or every other week end taking the 45-60 min train drive from Stafford to Liverpool to see me ( Knowing I wasn’t allowed yet ) My parents are fairly protective over me. I respect them and understand that i was not allowed to visit my boyfriend until i was 18. Now turned 18 and mentally feeling mature enough to take responsibility for my actions. My parents completely disagree with me travelling 45 mins to see him for the weekend ( putting a huge amount of pressure on our relationship)
I respect their views and opinions but it doesn’t mean i agree and i feel my voice it drowned. What is the right thing to say? Or am I just pushing my luck?
2007-01-10 01:42:08 · 7 answers · asked by Samantha.C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you want more freedom then you need to move out and be on your own. In your parents house you should respect their rules but, there should be room for compromise in anything, sit your parents down and have a long talk with them, show them that you are responsible enough to handle it, for example you have been with your boyfriend for 2 years and have not gotten into any trouble and have not gotten pregnant, this should help in showing them that you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-01-10 01:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sweetie,I think your pushing your luck just a little,ask yourself two things...1.Is the guy worth loosing your parents over? 2.If I do something with him,am I going to respect myself in the morning?
You have to remember that your still under their roof until you move out if you have the money,if not,no matter how much you love him,cut your loss and meet somebody who is a lot closer.A lot can happened to a young lady who is traveling by train by herself,I know all too well.
I myself am 28 and still live at home and squawk about some of my moms rules but,I rather her care too much than not enough,there are people in this world who would give anything to have parents that wait up for them or call them on the cell when they are late and lecture them when the crawl in the door the next day.
Heck,my mom has the six date rule,that means unless a guy takes me out 6 times,he's not allowed near the house,there are a lot of good reasons and,I respect my mom's values,not to mention it is her house(grins)
If you feel emotionally mature,then be mature enough to talk to your parents as an adult and air your beefs with each other in a respectful manner...
2007-01-10 02:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by raventears56 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all you are very mature for being able to be open and communicate about sex with eachother and your parents. I give you props. Second of all, parents know kids are going to experience sex. it's a part of life. Unless, they're some big time religious freaks who are wanting you to wait til your married, Even so let's be realistic here. No one's going to wait, especially if they don't want to. Your parents will be very glad you came to them and they will hopefully find honesty and maturity in you for doing so. They will hopefully then and should realize that it will be better long-term than you getting pregnant at a young age and not coming to talk to them, and it being to late. Put it this way. Would your parents rather have you come and talk to them about safe sex? or come to them and say "mom and dad, I'm pregnant" Any parents would say the first. Also Planned Parenthood will give you birth control for free and it's confidential. but yeah definitely talk to your parents! Your parents being protective surprisingly has nothing to do with safe sex. Parents are protective and strict about grades, curfews, keeping rooms clean, not watching certain rated R movies, etc. Been there! (I am 22 now) My guess is they will be supportive too, and thankful. Parents aren't oblivious to their kids experimenting with sex, and if they are oblivious and in denial and ultimately ignore it, that's how pregnancy can happen. Plus your 17. If you were like 14 it would be a whole different story (too young). but you are at the perfect age! This is the 21st century. there's nothing parents can do to keep their kids from having sex. They can however prevent unplanned teen pregnancy and stds, and that is by talking to their kids about safe sex and being there for them about the subject. Or in this rare case you taking the initiative and going to them first. you should be proud. GOOD LUCK.
2016-05-23 03:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its really not their decision if ur 18 then u r an adult so i say just leave and go see ur bf. its not like they can stop u. now if u were like 15 then yea i would understand but since ur an adult they cant stop u from goin to see ur bf especially since its not that far away. ur parents just still think of u as a little kid good luck
2007-01-10 01:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the laws in the U.K., but here in the colonies, one is considered an adult at 18 (although they can't vote or drink alcohol until age 21.)
And for my edification, what is "uni?"
2007-01-10 02:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to em abt it.n do let ur bf understand the prob.he needs to know hwt u r going thru too.
2007-01-10 01:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents love you
2007-01-10 01:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋