What can help stop the urge?

Question

I am baptist. And I have made a promise to myself and to God that I wont have sex. Is there something I can do to stop or help me ingore the urges. I have for kids so its obvious that I already have done it before, I just dont want to go back to the life I used to live

I meant I have four (4) kids.

Answer 1

keep busy serving God
only date Christian men who will not pressure you for sex until after marriage
pray to God and He will help calm you in this part of your life
talk to your brother, Jesus Christ, who was tempted in all things and he will tell you how to overcome this temptation
get married if you cannot control this urge

Answer 2

I'm almost 26 and the mother of two. I've been cutting since I was 14 years old, and it's very hard to quit, especially when that's how you've dealt with your issues before--trust me, I know. Most of the time I can avoid it by focusing my anger (and that's what it is--anger at yourself, anger at a situation, feeling like you're out of options and the only way to stop feeling the emotional pain is to cause yourself physical pain) on other things, like a punching bag, or screaming into a pillow, or punching a mattress. If you can relieve the pressure in another way, the urge to cut usually subsides after a small period of time. Of course, I would say to get help by seeing a therapist or counselor, but I know sometimes that's just not an option. Try focusing on creative writing, being aggressive with something soft like a pillow or mattress, or running or excercising. It helps me almost 100% of the time.

Answer 3

god dont care if you have sex. But if its that much of a problem go get yourself some nice vibrators. Theres NOTHING in any bible about that.

We are animals yet we are different as we have sex for pleasure. Why would god (if that is indeed his real name) make it so if we werent supposed to do it? Is he really that much of a ba$tard?

Just do what you want but dont get bun ovened again!

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Oh and in response to the old "you made a promise and god wont let you into heaven if you break it" um its been a while since I studied theology and was actually a christian but I do remember ONE THING. GOD IS ALL FORGIVING. how could he be so petty?

Answer 4

Think of thoughts that are a turn off to you. Then eat ice-cream without thinking of slathering it on your body and having hubby lick it off.

Just remember, you made a promise to GOD and he will not let you into Heaven if you break your promise.
So do not think about how good your man looks or how BIG he is.
Or you're gonna go to hell.

Just remember that and all your sex fantasies will fade away.

Answer 5

Um.. well.. I'm not an expert but I wouldn't suggest masterbating since its pretty much the same as what your avoiding, if your running a race it doesnt matter what way you go your still crossing the finish line.. But um I would say just take up a new hobby, or an old one, or yea pray.

Answer 6

I would try nto to think about it, but I am ot sure if that would work. I would just get a few nice toys to help those urges a little bit.

Answer 7

you cant stop the urge because you're human. but you can do other things to distract your attention, and you can keep yourself out of situations that would leave you in a compromising position...

Answer 8

Become like me and no one will want to have sex with you.

Answer 9

when the urge comes, dont entertain it.... Instead PRAY!

Answer 10

Keep praying.