My fiance of a year and half told me since the new year that he wanted to date some other people because he wasn't sure now about us. While its reasonable that some one can change their mind about marriage, and i accept that. Why am i going through such an emotional melt down? Any advice out there about what i can do to get over this? My life feels like its been turned upside down.
2007-01-10 01:33:48 · 4 answers · asked by latoya w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have no medicine that will aid you in your distress, however the best medicine is always time. Though I know it is hard you may want to try and step outside yourself to see if it something you could have controlled. I will tell you that from my experience, if someone says they want to see other people, they already are. Getting cold feet at the alter is not unexpected, but calling it off is. This tells me that the groom has been having second, third and even forth thoughts for quite some time. The best way to get over something like this is NOT to get involved with someone else right away. It is rather to take time and realize that no matter what is or was said, it is not your problem, nor is it your fault. Fear is a strange thing, and it very hard for some people to deal with it, usually denial is the only way they can. The groom was afraid, not of you, not of commitment, but of being trapped in a situation in which he had to share control of his life with someone else. Not an easy task for some men.
2007-01-10 01:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to get over a broken engagement and a marriage in which my husband left me for another woman.
There is no easy way. Over time the pain Will be less. You will remember how much it hurt and how much you cried but you will not longer feel like crying and the pain will slowly go away.
In the long run you Willl very likely be content that the relationship ended.
Losing a person by abandonment or by death are much the same after you grieve you wil slowly get on with your life.
good luck
2007-01-10 01:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by sweetienugent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with any loss, you need to allow yourself a time to grieve. And it's different for EVERY person. It's hard to get up every day & go about life while your heart is breaking. Especially when you have to earn a living.
There are no magic words to help you get over this. The only thing you have on your side right now, is time. As you do the "leg work" day to day to work through this, the pain & disappointment will lessen & lessen. Don't expect to feel good overnight. It doesn't work that way.
2007-01-10 03:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by getting poor advises from my friends
2007-01-10 01:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by thabomaphakisamichael 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋