How to make him come back to me!?

Question

My bf and I were having a long distance relationship. I have just left him for my career two months ago. Things were all ok before I left. However he wrote me a break-up letter today and told me that he doesn't feel the same way anymore. But he was the sweetest guy I could ever be with. All the things he did for me was so wonderful and more than a normal bf would do. He is now extremely busy with his life but I seriously thought things would stay the same. However he has changed and stopped contacting me. I emailed him a couple times and I got his emails back too. He sounded ok and was sweet. But the thing i don't understand is that why he can change overnight and telling me that he ahs been feeling neglected. He thinks that I never truly understood him. He wants to call it off and move on. How do I get him to contact me again? I am not doing anything right now cuz I think we need a few days off. I know I need to be mature to talk to him. Please help to make him understand my feelings!

Sorry guys I forgot to mention that he was totally ok with being long distance. I thought about leaving a long time ago and he was preparing for it. I think the only person that wasn't ok was me. Cuz I kept on trying to get hold of him. He just told me that I can't make things all bad. I know that i am clingy but it is long distance though. Now he wants to get over me but what if I give up things here (I haven'tstarted the career here yet) and go back to him, will it change!? Thanks guys....I appreciate your help.

Answer 1

You sound like you are head over heels. I think everyone at one time or another looses that person they truly love. It is heart breaking and unfair. He sounds like he may have told you he was OK with the long distance at first, so he wouldn't keep you from something that could be great for you. The truth is we don't always say what we are really thinking. He is lonely, and sees no end in sight. I don't think you should over push, he may need some time. I know you need some closer, it hurts very bad. Remember he may be feeling the same hurt and trying to figure it all out. Give it some time do a little dating, let him contact you. He just may. Let him do the same - he deserves it. You said how perfect and sweet he was to you unlike any other man, but were you the same way. A sensitive man needs a lot of love and devotion. I am sorry for your situation, I have been there. I am married to someone different now, but there isn't a day that goes by that I wish I could see or talk to my young love.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, you can never "MAKE" him do anything, let alone love you or come back to you. And I doubt that he changed "overnight". Probably you just didn't see the warning signs because you were too busy.
That being said, don't take a few days off from the relationship! Not if you want to see if it can be repaired. You are right that you need to be mature.
I would should sit down this minute and write my awesome friend ('cause that is all he is right now-- your friend) an email or letter telling him exactly how I feel.
Basically just tell him what you've told us. Apologize for not understanding him before, and tell him that 'if it is not too late' you would love the opportunity to get to know and understand him now. Today! Tell him you "appreciate" him and his affections very much. ("Appreciate" is a word that really gets a guys attention. And I can tell that you do appreciate him.) Tell him you realize now that he means even more to you than your career does, and that you would even be willing to move if it would further the relationship. Don't be wishy washy about it. Only say this if you are truly willing to do it! If you talk the talk then you must walk the walk.
Give it your best shot, but if it doesn't work, if he doesn't want to give you another chance, then you must reach deep down inside yourself for strength and maturity and let him go. If the man wants to be free he will be, and you should LOVE him enough to let him be free without a hassle from you.
Remember there are loads of great fish in the sea!
I wish you much luck though. I do think you now appreciate and love him.
Blessings to you and to your friend.
D

Answer 3

let him go. i know its a hard answer and i'm sure at this point you probably don't want to hear it but its true. true love will come back if you let it go. being clingy only makes it worse, it conveys a message of desperation and no guy wants a girl that is so desperate for love and attention that she can't even stand on her own two feet. if he returns to you, then it was meant to be. and if not, then know that things happen for a reason. yea, your heart may be broken now, but hearts heal with time and you will soon find that you will be able to get over him and love again.
Good luck....all the best!

Answer 4

pls be calm n cool down.u should stop everything but go to meet him face 2 face discussing ur problems in a cafe.is there any misunderstanding?is he jeolous?no matter how busy he's n if he still loves u, he w'd definitely accept ur coming n willing to settle ur problems,he should have ur decency.if not, u can forget about him n leave him alone there.as i always said n emphasized,mutual understanding,common interest n respect each other r very important 4 every couple.so u won't feel miserable in life.

best wishes.

Answer 5

sounds to me, like he has perhaps found someone closer to his vicinity..if he was okay with the long distance thing, and now he wants to break it off, something has changed...you can't get him to contact you if he has no desire to. Leave it alone..and concentrate on yourself now..it is time to move on..good luck..

Answer 6

Let him go and be happy. Or just be friends for now.

Answer 7

you should listen to what he's saying,if you'd do that then you'd have no questions.