How can I tell he's saying all of this cuz it's true or he's totally lying?!!!?

Question

I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy who's 38 and I'm 22. Anyway, stuff happened after my last visit, he didn't call often and didn't reply to my texts - his excuse? "I'm not a texting kind of person". Anyway, after thinking that he doesn't give a damn, I sent him a text saying "Thought u were special not like those using bastards, guess I was wrong". He ignored the text. He had to send me money I left at his place and it took him a while to send it to the point that I told him "As soon as I get that money, you won't hear from me". Anyway, things were settled and I'm seeing him next weekend. Since that incident he's telling me that he's got his guard up now cuz he say's "Whats to say you ain't gonna send me a text like that again" and told me that girls start acting crazy when you start to drop your guard. My sister thinks hes playing me about, he was hinting the other week about us having a baby. I don't know what he's doing, does he like me or is lying to keep me there?HELP

P.S> shortly after my visit wit him not calling, I wasn't calling him but even then I was keeping in contact wit text messages....he's told me I'm naive in relationships aswell. I feel he's stringing me along how can I tell he's telling the truth?

Answer 1

hes 38 and your 22....red flags right there...stop it its not healthy and its just plain embarassing..

Answer 2

It sounds to me like you're being strung along....the baby thing killed it for me. That seems like a last ditch effort to keep you there by promising some kind of future with him. People that are serious make plans together and don't just drop subtle hints. If you care for someone you don't ignore texts and use a slightly threatening tactic that he did when he said he now had to have his guard up. The next time you see him sit him down and have a completely open and honest conversation about the status of your relationship. As him outright what his take is on the future of your relationship. If it were me though, I wouldn't be seeing him again......treatment like he's given you isn't right, isn't loving and isn't acceptable.

Answer 3

Who can ever tell what a man is thinking? One minute they call all the time and act like they have to be around ya all the time and the next minute,they havent called in 2 days,and then act as if seeing you is the last thing on their agenda. I was doing the same thing in a very long distant relationship. He acted distant to towards me after he came for a visit.When he got home he didnt call. So I started to text him.He ignored my text,and when I asked him why he had the same reply" I dont like to text." Anyways later I found out he had another girl also(long distant relationship),and of course,I got out of that drama. Just the week before all this happend.He was talking about us being a family,himself,me,my children,and having one of our own. I think your sister is probably right ..that he is playing you.

Answer 4

To be honest, nothing can give an accurate answer with that little amount of details. One sure thing is that he is not being totally open with you: not answering your texts without at least saying: "stop sending me those shitty texts" doesn't shows much commitment with communication from him. The only advice I can give you is: never use text anymore: phone him. And beware, this doesn't look very good. If I had to bet, I would bet on that relationship. But I don't know you, and who knows what kind of girl you are?

Answer 5

Well, I hate to say it but it sounds like your sister is right. I have to say with that great of a difference in age and him being of that mature age. . . I just think that you should be out having fun and not getting caught up with someone who at his age still hasn't stopped playing games. Think about it and follow your gut instinct that's the best advice I can give you. P.S. People of your generation are more familiar with texting and his barely know about computers... In addition don't give anymore of yourself until you feel you are getting some of that person (i.e. Affection, Care, etc.) in return. If you do you'll end up feeling used.

Hope this helps,

M.

Answer 6

yes he likes you. that is why is saying the things you want to hear to keep you around. he slept with you when you visited. he got what he wanted, then ignored you afterwards. now he wants it again, and is saying the things that will secure a romp in the sack. he backs up his actions by diverting the blame to you and the things you have said or done. its a classic "guy move". keep your guard up. use him for the sex or whatever you like, if you can handle that, but don't fall for him more than you have...you will get burned. take it for what it is and enjoy it as a booty call, or move on.

Answer 7

How does he feel. Marriage should come before a baby - If he is ready for a child then he should want to marry you and live together

Answer 8

ok, i put myself in that situation, he is either married or a controlling a@@hole! and you dont want to be involved with either one. He wants to have a baby to keep you around. Yes he is playing you.

Answer 9

If he looks directly into your eyes he telling the truth if he doesnt look into your eyes hes a liar.

Answer 10

he's lying. Leave him alone. You can do better than that.