My boyfriend wants us to move in together. I'm 35 and am fairly set in my ways like anyone else my age. I haven't lived with a guy before and am really anxious!! Any advice?
2007-01-10 01:21:08 · 39 answers · asked by Emma D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T DO IT! You have a great life just the way it is. Why mess up a good thing.
2007-01-10 01:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should, because you only live once and It's somethings different that you haven't done before. Look on the bright side and enjoy it.
Well, It's more serious than that. But you will learn new things as well. But also think whether that's good for your relationship. And you will learn new things about your boyfriend. Me and my bf can't wait to move in together, but we still take it slow. I have lived with him for a week or two and I know that we will be fine with cleaning and all. You might be just fine as well. Never know unless you try.
2007-01-10 01:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by weird_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a bit of risk involved, as you have said u are set in your ways, but you will never know if u dont give it a try! i moved in with my boyfriend very soon after we met (6 months) and i was a little unsure but we get on fine and are getting married soon.
I think you should give it a go but maybe discuss with him how your feeling?
just because u live together doesnt mean u cant still have your independence and own life, maintain some of your own interests independently as well as sharing some.
2007-01-10 01:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by BABY BELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful at first but then it gets boring.
I used to enjoy curling up on the sofa with my partner of an evening and now i am so feed up with it, there's only so many times you can enjoy cooking someones tea or clearing up there mess.
All that said there is also perks like waking up next to the person you love the most in world or sharing a bath or the person just being there to give you that i know how it feels hug when you come home from work.
Just follow your head and do whats right for you and don't feel pressurised.
2007-01-10 01:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by effielorraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVING IN WITH SOMEONE IS A BIG STEP. YOU DO HAVE TO MODIFY YOUR BEHAVIOUR AS HE WOULD HIS. YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT MOVING INTO SOMEONE ELSE'S TERRITORY AND AWAY FROM YOURS. IT WILL AND CAN WORK IF YOU ARE BOTH COMMITTED AND WILLING TO COMPROMISE, BUT REMEMBER YOU WILL HAVE DOUBLE THE LOAD TO CONTEND WITH IN MANY WAYS. HAVE YOU STOPPED AT HIS PLACE BEFORE? ARE YOU HAPPY THE WAY HE KEEPS HIS PLACE? WOULD YOU BE COMFORTABLE LIVING HIS WAY? IF YOU WOULD LIKE HIM TO MAKE CHANGES TO THE WAY HE LIVES THE ANSWER IS NO, DON'T DO IT. IF THE ANSWER IS YES THEN GO FOR IT, BEING ALONE IS NOT ALWAYS GOOD FOR THE SOUL. BESIDES WHICH YOU MAY WELL GAIN YOUR EXPERIENCE AND DISCOVER EXACTLY WHAT IT IS YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE AND THAT IS NEVER A BAD THING.
2007-01-14 00:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by freephoenixuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it!! everyone is nervous at one point and when you do actually move in together its wonderfull. Id go look together at properties and there is no rush if there isnt one right for you- wait you want everything to be right.
Make sure everything is jointly. you'll have so much fun picking out designs and furniture and stuff.. i wouldnt move into his property or anything as this is a big step and a big deal. you want something that is yours and equal, not all his.
Im 19, pretty young and its coming up to my 2nd wedding anniversery and i have 2 kids (23mth and 8mth). im very mature for my age and even though ive done it all young i wouldnt change anything.
good luck to you both and remember even though its a big step and everything will change- it will be perfect and wonderfull.
2007-01-10 01:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and are committed then this is the next natural step.
I moved in with my b/f at 35, he is now my fiance. It was hard for the first few months but it was worth it. It just takes time to get used to each others little ways and habits, dont be scared...try it and see you'll probably be pleasantly suprised.
2007-01-10 01:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only do it if you are totally comfortable with the guy and you feel you can take anything on board that he might throw at you. If you are totally in love and see him as the only guy you want to be with then go for it. I have and its working out great, we're so close. I wasnt worried in anyway about moving in with my man.. i think because you have your concerns it might be an idea to wait a month or so to give you time to think about it properly? good luck.. oh and if you decide not to, remember to make it clear its not because of the way he is and you do love him!.. it could be taken as rejection otherwise
2007-01-10 01:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have a trial run first, try it for a coupl of weeks without giving up your own place. If it works out then you should embrace the fact that he obviously loves you very much and wants to be around you. However if you find you stuggle with the trial period then simply tell him that for the time being you aren't ready. Hope this helps!
2007-01-10 01:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by haunted_angel85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how long you've been together. don't move in with him until youre sure that your realationship is something that's going to last. you don't wanna be moving back out a month later!
if you do decide to move in with him, just be who you are on your own. don't change anything because you live with someone else now. (unless you're a complete cover hog or something - then you need to share!) just be the person that you are, and he'll still love you for that.
2007-01-10 01:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by john_deeregirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
count yourself lucky - most guys leg it from any form of commitment. been with my guy for 3 years - suggested buying a place together - to get a better mortgage more than anything and he's said no - so now were both looking for our own pokey flats to live in before the numpty realises that you get more if you pull together.
so - go for it - you only live once. you dont want to end up a lonely old spinster on your own do you?
2007-01-10 02:43:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋