I love my boyfriend very very very much...I got accepted into Albany college of Pharmacy..and just got asked last night to play volleyball for them which is a great honor and i will be playing..However I love my boyfriend very much and I am going to put my career before him I understand that....But now he is telling me to help make the time go by he wants to go into the reserves so he will be away for 6 months in training while i am at college...should i be upset about this because i am extremely?...I keep thinking what we will miss in those 6 months and how hard it will be?..I just think he is taking it to far and it doesnt have to be this hard....He will miss everything for 6 months...what should i say or do or what?
2007-01-10 01:18:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you going out of town to this college? If not, then he is just trying to spite you. He is trying to make you stay, he is trying to manipulate you. Obviuosly you will miss him very much and he knows that that is why he is trying to manipulate your feelings. Talk to him and explain to him that if he really loves you he would want you to excell in your life and that you want the same for him. Tell him you need his support now more than ever.
2007-01-10 01:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree. i think he is taking this to an extreme. you should put you career before him. you have one chance to be young and make something of yourself. but what happens if he getts shipped off to war. Bush keeps sending more troops over. and yes 6 months is a long time. and anyone changes in college. you (and him both) could be completely different people in that time. I think you just sit down and tell him this. Just be truthful. tell him how much you love him, what a great oppertunity going to college and playing on the volleyball teram is, and also how you think going into the reserves is a mistake. just be 100% honest and things have their way of working out.
2007-01-10 09:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I understand that the separation isn't pleasant, I can't help feeling that you measure with two measures. Why is it ok for you to put your career first, but it's not ok for him to pursue career goals?
You are being a bit selfish. Look at it as a sacrifice for your future together. Another thing: You are presumably going to become a Pharmacist, and enjoy above average renumeration. If your bf just wastes his time, and doesn't take the steps to ensure that he can get a good job as well, that will cause friction in your relationship later on.
2007-01-10 09:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries, he seems like he is going to put his career before you for a little while also. 6 months apart could do you some good, especially kinda starting a new life at college. you will be able to get into the groove a little better, then pick up where you guys left off
2007-01-10 09:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by t2tonyboy24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'd like to congratulate you on making the team! You should tell your boyfriend how much you love him and tell him it's a choice he has to make. No one else can make it for him. I think the 6 mos. that the two of you are apart will not seem that long. Sounds like you will be busy with all of your studies and your volleyball too much to miss him. What he's doing is very admirable. Anyone willing to put their neck on the line for the rest of us to have our freedom is quite something. Good luck with your vollyball and your studies!
2007-01-10 09:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk with him about your concerns. He needs to know how you feel but you also have to be willing to compromise if he really wants to go into the reserves. You are going to college and playing volleyball and he seems supportive of that...so if the reseraves is what he really wants you should be supportive of him. It will be hard to be apart for 6 months...but it is only 6 months.
Please talk to him about this.
2007-01-10 09:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is meant to be - it will be. Follow the path of your career (and congrats on the acceptance into a Pharmacy school)
Love will withstand distance. My husband and I were both in the military and 20 years later still together - my love is stronger today than 20 years ago
2007-01-10 09:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be selfish...This is something that he really wants to do same as you going away to college and playing volleyball. If you can make it through those 6 months then that just shows how strong your relationship is!
2007-01-10 09:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, and don't yet understand that 6 months is a very short period of time for something important like what he is doing. A relationship that can't handle a 6-month break is no relationship at all.
2007-01-10 09:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not holding you back from what you want to do, don't hold him back. Be as supportive of his choices as he is of yours. And anyway you are going to be so busy with schoolwork and volley ball you are not going to have much time for him. Your curriculum is very difficult and you will be spending a lot of time studying.
Don't be unfair, you are living your life the way you need to let him live his. Or maybe he can stick around and wait to see you, get bored and meet someone else? Think about it.
2007-01-10 09:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋