ok i like one of my best friends and i cant tell if he likes me and i dont want to tell him because it might ruien our relationship as friends.i dont want that to happen.what should i do? take the risk or play it safe?
2007-01-10 01:06:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't take the risk, you'll never know...and you'll probably always wonder. Besides, chances are if you are good friends now, you have a good chance of remaining friends if the relationship doesn't go as ideally as hoped. If you do choose to pursue this and you find he does reciprocate your feelings, start out slow almost like a trial basis to feel out how the relationship might go. At the beginning of the relationship make a deal that if things aren't going all that well that you two will call it quits asap to salvage your friendship.
2007-01-10 01:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...either way you can risk losing things. If you play it safe and don't say anything, you could end up passing up your chance to try and see if things would work. Yet at the same time, if you take the risk it could lead to an uneasy friendship if feelings are not shared. I guess the closest bit of advice I can give is but a saying. "Never regret to live and never live to regret." You don't have to ask flat out "Hey would you want to date me," Just try something simple, maybe use a few tester questions. Something like "What do you think of me," or maybe "do you find me attractive."
I wish I could give better advice then this, but I can only go off the general knowledge I have. So I wish you luck, and pray that it all works out for you.
2007-01-10 09:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Zero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is no longer one of your best friends...Sorry!!
If you've developed feelings for him, he is your love interest.
Let's just bite the bullet right now and get it over with. There can be no friendship on top of your unrequited love. If he has feelings for you, he will start to ask you out on dates. Then kiss you goodnight and move forward. If he doesn't start it after you drop a few hints. DONT you start to try dating him. I've already taken this bullet for you...ha ha...it just won't work.
I had the exact same thing happen to me and I got WAY hurt.
I kept hanging around as friends even when I knew I loved him and he most likely didn't love me. When I made my move he side stepped for months before I came to realize there was no way my friend was ever going to do two things.
1. Love me, like I did him.
2. Let me know that and loose me as a friend.
You can't play it safe! You are already in the danger zone. You are going to either find all you dream of...or heartache. no tweeners.
God bless you and keep you. Take care of you first!
2007-01-10 09:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he hinted that he would want more than a friendship, and does he have a girlfriend? Make sure he doesn't have one. I would talk to him in a place that he feels comfortable like his place so if things go wrong then you can just walk out, he wouldn't feel trapped. Then just say something like " I hope that what I am about to say want ruin our friend ship because I value it, I really enjoy spending time with you and have grown to like you more than a friend and I would like to know if you felt the same."
2007-01-10 09:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the middle ground. Flirt with him without telling him you like him straight out. If he likes you, he may ask you instead! Casually mention that he looks good wearing such and such...etc. Keep it up for a while, then suddenly back off and then pay attention to whether or not he seems to be pursuing you...He will wonder why your compliments have stopped, and seek you out.
On the other hand, if you stop, and he ignores you....well....that would be bad.
2007-01-10 09:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what you want more, a friend or love. I had a great friend ..he proposed and I realised I was in love with him so I accepted his proposal. We went steady for a year and then things went wrong and he broke up with me. Till date i miss the friend i lost more than the love.
2007-01-10 09:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably have a sit-down by leading up to a simply orchestrated event. This needs to get out one way or another. Unless you can tolerate seeing him with someone else.
2007-01-10 09:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by go gadget53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him right now that you like him. It shouldn't ruin anything if he is your real friend. If it does than perhaps you really werent friends.
2007-01-10 09:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋