I met someone at a Halloween party and we have spent the last 2 months getting to know one another. All of a sudden the Friday before New Years they told me that they could not do this,they were investing too much in the "feelings dept" and I wasn't and that they didn't want to get hurt. Do you think at possible to love in 2 months?Do think that they were being truthful about the reason the broke it off? And I didn't even get a chance to explore my feelings on the matter...
2007-01-10 00:54:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like they have been hurt before and are afraid to go in that direction for fear of being hurt again. I think its definately possible to fall in love in 2 months. About them being truthful why they broke it off you'll have to go with your gut feelings on the matter, how it happened, etc...
2007-01-10 01:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by dustbaum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are all kinds out there. For some the new Year is a big deal. Like whatever they are doing on NY they will keep doing all year. This person probably realized they were falling for you and didn't want to be. They have their reasons. They said they didn't want to be investing too much in the feelings dept. That means they don't want to grow into a deeper relationship with you.
Let them go and recognize that some people move faster than others. sounds like a case of they being over and done before you even got warmed up. That's not a good fit for the future.
Just walk on and find another who moves more at your pace.
2007-01-10 09:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be for several reasons. The way they were starting to feel towards you may have scared them due to a past experience. Or they may have found someone else they wanted to be with and didn't want to hurt your feelings. Or they may decided that you weren't the one. To name a few.
I wouldn't spend time worrying over it. It is apparent they decided they didn't want to be with you for whatever reason. Trying to hang on to someone who doesn't have mutual feeling is the wrong thing to do. You would get hurt in the end, if you did.
2007-01-10 09:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by tootsie1115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love in 2 months. But I think she/he didn't tell you the whole truth. Is there an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend maybe? Or did you give everything you could in this relationship? There has to be something, because you can't stop loving somebody one day to another
2007-01-10 09:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by You 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they invested a little more of themselves than you did and thought it was more than it turned out to be. When they realised you were not trying as hard as they were to turn it into a relationship they must have wondered if it was worth it. I would use this as a chance to try and do a little soul searching to find out why this person didn't think they were getting enough of you.
2007-01-10 09:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but a lot of guys view women as objects for fun, not for anything more serious. It's too bad he was such a jerk about toying with you like this and then leaving you so abruptly. Next time, pay more attention to subtle clues, namely your feelings. If he acts like they don't matter, back off.
2007-01-10 08:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Reo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats probably their way of cutting the rope early, my guess is they were with someone and just used you for bait. She didn't want you 2 explain yourself because she was guilty of something, and she don't wanna get caught in the act. Sorry about that you'llfind someone great just don't rush because you'll know when she's the one. Bye!
2007-01-10 09:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by EDNA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not like ur gonna change their minds. and yes u can develop feelings in 2 months. just depends on what type of person u are and how much time uve spent with them. but be glad it didnt go on longer and then break it off suddenly.
2007-01-10 08:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur partner probably met someone else and its possible to fall inlove in two months or it may be ur partner wants u to commit to them if they,ve been telling u about their feeling for a while then they telling the truth but if it was all sudden then they met someone else goodluck
2007-01-10 09:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by affh1st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. The worst thing is to be in love with someone who doesn't love you back. Break it off now and save yourself more heartache. Believe me, the next somebody is right around the corner.
2007-01-10 09:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Michael S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋