i am a 29 year old woman who is single and needs a man desperately. i am an attractive lady if i may say so myself but i have a bit of a weight problem i am not fat but not thin either, (voloptuous) i am very shy and don't know how to attract guys please help
2007-01-10 00:44:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie. Don't ever say again you need desperately any man. If you believe that, you will be exposing yourself to the most mean predators: Jerks that give us men a really bad reputation.
Be yourself. Is very likely that someone around is interested in you, and you have not noticed him. Keep your eyes open, have a sincere smile in your face. Look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself: "I am a very beautiful girl. Love is around me. I will leave the doors to my heart open, so love can walk into my life".
Best wishes.
2007-01-10 00:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by David G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great advice people! Get drunk? Lose the fat? Jeez no wonder this world is a mess!
Get out more and do more things, learn new hobbies try dance, gym, sports, college courses? All these places are good places to meet gentlemen.
Be true to yourself.
Be honest with yourself and others.
Say yes to more things
(I don't mean to guys either I mean to things in life).
Embrace yourself.
Challenge yourself.
Respect yourself.
Be confident in yourself
Be yourself.
Love yourself.
Eat healthy.
Excercise.
Socialise.
Don't come across as desperate guys can tell it's like a sixth sense.
Don't be "easy" and sleep around.
Be subtle, let a guy know you're interested by making eye contact and maybe even chatting. Get interested in him, find out about him and what kind of a man he is before taking things serious. Don't give him everything before you even know who he is.
If you try your best to do all these things a guy will notice you and express that he would like to get to know you better and nature will work its wonders and take its course!
HTH
2007-01-10 00:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your shyness, realize that there are men out there that are just as desperate to find companionship as you are.
Find a guy that you find attractive that you know is single (start going to church, go back to college, do something to get yourself around other people, personally I would avoid bars and clubs, but that is just my opinion) then make the first move. Show your interest, if he does not respond in a positive manner, move on to the next best alternative and realize that the first guy, or first hundred guys lost out on a great opportunity.
Good luck.
2007-01-10 00:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta Question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
Number One: LOVE THYSELF. And you really need to do this. Have respect for yourself and who you are.
Remember that most people think everyone is looking at them and know that no one is... why? Because we're all wrapped up in our own lives, so go out there, be yourself, get to know peoplem talk! If you make a fool out of yourself, don't worry!
And nearly EVERYONE is shy and/or insecure, the rest are either dead or faking it.
Which leads to the next point: faking it in bed, bad idea.
Faking it in life, good idea (to a point)
Pretend you are confident, outgoing and a friendly open person, the more you go out their and act/pretend the more it will become a reality.
Also, what do you do all day? Maybe go to the gym or start running or join a social sports club (NOT to lose weight) so you can get out and meet people.
Start volunteering. Like dogs? Work at an animal shelter a few hours a week. Like People? There are a million ways you can get out and help and meet new people.
The biggest thing is to get out there, start DOING things, start small if you have to, but by getting out there and getting out of your comfort zone, your confidence will increase.
People always say to me they wish they were more like me and more outgoing.. that I am so friendly .. but believe me, just like most people, I walk into bars/parties scared to death and worried no one will like me.
Five minutes into it, I'm chatting, laughing and having a ball!!
Good luck, I wish you the very best!
2007-01-10 00:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lady M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lol, I'm a teen but just let your personality and "smartness" shine through, be confident, don't look desperate, don't be a slut but show your curves!
When you see a guy or you're approached or whenever you're in that predicament, just breathe in, don't let them see your shyness, be confident and go for it. If you get rejected have that "he don't know what he's missing attitude" and move on to the next guy.. you're prince will come soon!
2007-01-10 00:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give off a few available signals if you want a man to approach you, if you spot a handsome man make sure you maintain eye contact for half a second longer than you normally would with a stranger and then after 2 seconds or so look back up and him and if you arent too petrified smile.
2007-01-10 00:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your in denial, you are fat. Try to lose weight as a New Year's resolution. Also, guys are like bees, if you get close enough to the hive they'll swarm... also don't wear too much makeup, or they will ask how much money the date costed.
2007-01-12 17:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by pdiddly3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say is just be yourself, try to look your best, lose the weight if you can, and dont try so hard with guys by flirting or by any other desperate means..just keep a certain amount of mystery about yourself that will keep guys interested...
2007-01-10 00:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by bandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and Circulate!
Don't go Believing that Guys Like Thin Girls!(It's All nonsense!)
Shape and Shapely Figures are Wonderful!
Be your self and you'll be fine!
2007-01-10 00:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Todays girl isn't the thin girl. Most guys like a girl with some curve. Try wearing a bit more revealing clothing and the guys will come to you.
2007-01-10 00:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by andyramvzb 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋