Trouble Study Problem ? Any ideas ? (T.T) ???

Question

I am 16
I remember that I always be the number one student in my class when I learned from grade 1st to grade 9th !!!
But now,I am in 10 th grade,I amnot the numberone student in my class anymore,I am 22/49,my parents are so sad (but they are more angry !!!).They said that I was just an idiot,I am nothing but a lazy student !!!They said that I am not good at learning cuz I play too much game and spend too much time with my new girlfriend !!! They swear that If I amnot the numberone student in my class,they won't allow me to live in this house !!!
I feel that I have decay in my mind,I cause stress everyday,I am tired of their s*ck insult !!! They even make a call with my teacher (That action 's sooo stupid and so sh*t,I think)
I only think that "Sh*t ! What is the big deal here ???"
I feel sick and veryyyyyyy angry about this !
Can u tell me :
1.Am I right or my parents are right ?
2.What should I do now ? Should I insult back my parents and tell them I didn't do anything ?

Answer 1

First it's not right for your parents to say that you are an idiot and it's not right that they threatened you kicking out of the house if you couldn't get no 1 in class. It's always unwise to pressure the child this way. But afterall you should understand that what your parent meant is good and they were only a bit overreacting to this. They spoke to you like this probably because they just don't way in what way they can make you study hard and concern more on your study and sometimes words just slip out of their mouth. The bottom line is your parent is quite right, you should focus on your study and you had dramaticlly dropped your grades probably something to do with your girlfriend. I'm not telling you to stop seeing your girlfriend but try to strick a balance between the two. At some point you should also bear in mind that school is very important, it could shape you how you like in your next ten to twenty years. I know from what you wrote that you are a smart guy, I'm sure you know what to do. best luck.

Answer 2

Your parents want you to be perfect like before. What they don't understand is you are growing up, have other interests and are choosing other things to occupy your time instead of studying.
They don't understand the transition that you are going through.
They are wrong for assaulting you will names and to threaten you with excessive action.
Please take this in stride and don't get upset.
Do what you have to do and keep your grades up.
If they are not approachable, I would try talking to one of the guidance counsellors at the school.
Explain your situation, and maybe they can give you some advice.
I know as the years go by, straight A's are very difficult to attain as the curriculum gets harder and hardsd.
I would try sitting down with them and talking, not yelling or name calling... This is the only approach you have at this point.
Tell them how their name calling makes you feel and how you are hurt. They need to know you are doing your best and that they should be encouraging you not degrading you. You must explain fully the effect this is having on you towards them and also on your self image.
Tell them they are no respecting you by threats.
Also let them know if they really feel you should leave then you will approach an aunt or uncle and discuss living with them. You will let the relatives know that they don't want you unless you are a perfect student. That your parents think you are stupid and no good. That should make them think....
You should not show disrespect by stooping to their level and name calling. You will accomplish nothing.
This is very difficult on your emotional well being and it would be better to find somewhere else to live than remain in this negative home.
Do not loose hope, I think expressing the truth to them is needed now. Do nothiing else at this point., except talking to them.
Make sure it is quiet and you will not be disturbed.

Answer 3

Calm down! Your parents want you to do as well as you have in the past. They and you need to know school gets harder in high school, but if you study and apply yourself you can do better. Study and concentrate on school during the week and enjoy your week-end with your friends. Never insult your parents, and it is normal for parents to talk with the teacher when they feel it necessary. Someday you will be a parent too and then you will understand. I do agree with you that your parents have no right to belittle you.

Answer 4

Firstly, good for you for standing first all those years. You are quite obviously a very smart person.

This is what I was taught to do when feeling criticized:

1. Look at the criticism to see if there is any merit in it.

2. If there IS merit in it, then it is up to me to do something about that or not.

3. If there is NO merit in it, it's the other person's problem and they need to deal with it.

Best wishes.

Answer 5

My existence is sucks too yet i imagine too many ppl does!:D My dad moved to an different united states of america, my mum kicked me out from the domicile and that i stay with my grandparents... Im continuously ill and that i imagine the reason of it really is my mum :( My classmates and different adult men love me tho yet i do not really like them my ideal buddy left me 2 years in the past she moved to an different united states of america and we cant even communicate:( i'd opt for to regulate college and commence a sparkling existence yet its so complicated:(