i am a 25 yr old man.i have just married my girlfriend at home. my big brother drove away and did not attend the wedding. all my 5 other brothers were present inculding my sisters. they were all happy for me. all he did was to call my big sister who is away and told her i was getting married when i am too young. what must i do, ask his problem or ignore him or what
2007-01-10 00:08:38 · 14 answers · asked by bhungane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He's probably into drugs. Get him help. Good luck
2007-01-10 00:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he thinks you are too young, it is an issue he must deal with. Pray about it and then do what God leads you to do.
I would suggest you send him a letter explaining how you want him as a brother, however you love the woman you married and are happy. That you hope that he can somehow be happy for you too, and realize that you made a choice that was your's to make. That if in time it does not work out it will have been your mistake to make. That you are only trying to do what is right and marry the one you love, instead of sleeping with her and not making it right in the eyes of God. Tall him you will always love him no matter how he feels about your decision, but that you must now put your wife and marriage first. That she means the world to you, and your only hope is that he will honor that. That you hope that he can find it in his heart to see how happy she makes you, and that he will not run away from you, but be with you as your brother and stand by you no matter what.
2007-01-10 00:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about why he didn't say that to you. Tell him he hurt your feelings (and perhaps your new wife's feelings too?) - try to sort it out. If he doesn't come round to your way you need to decide if you agree with him and want to continue to talk to him. At the end of the day it is your decision to marry when you feel you are ready. If he has serious issues around the woman you've married you will need to discuss.
2007-01-10 00:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is KEY in any relationship.. brother - sister... husband wife.. mother n child. You can only understand each other if you both communicate your feelings clearly... this will help you find a healthier relationship with your brother and hopefully resolve the problem. Best wishes!
2007-01-10 00:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by kweenses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to ask him what is the matter and why he does not approve of the wedding, both of you can then sit down and talk together and sort it out because you dont want to fall out with your brother as he is family. So talk to him and things will become clearer. xx
2007-01-10 00:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should talk to him. Only he knows why he is behaving like this but don't push him if he doesn't open up straight away. He'll tell you in his own time. Also, try talking to your other brothers and sisters. They might know something you don't and will be able to support you.
2007-01-10 00:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by firegirl999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's a tad jealous because you are happy and have found someone that you love. Is he single? Ask him what his problem is, if he persists leave him to it he 'll get over it and come round in the end. just try and focus on your wife now.
x
2007-01-10 00:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels that way cos He is the big one.
Time will heal all that. concentrate on your marrige and make it work. ok!!
Congrat on your wedding!!!!
It is not easy to find a wife but girlfriends are all over.
Got a wife material left? intimate me fast plsssssssssssss.
2007-01-10 00:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by ineem20012005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is messed up.... did you give him more than a day to get to your wedding.... last april my fiances sis got married, and she told us the day before at our sons birthday party and we couldnt attend... he had to work and I was overdue with our second son....as long as you gave him ample time, then its his problem... you can forgive but not forget... good luck... and congrats!
2007-01-10 01:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
phone him and say you were sorry he could not make it to the wedding and that you missed him. Invite him round for dinner ; obviously cooked by your lovely wife and wait for him to raise the subject. whatever he says do not get cross; wait patiently and then say that you are very happy to have found your wife and you are sorry that he feels like that, he is entitled to his opinion but you are asking him to be happy for you.
2007-01-12 04:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him because after all he is only looking out for you because your brothers.dont talk to him when theres loads of people about try talking to him face to face not other the phone or text messages because he can just ignore them.
2007-01-11 03:30:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋