Do people generally have a 10th wedding anniversary party?

Question

we are thinking of having a renewal of vows ceremony and after party next year for our 10th wedding anniversary (we sneeked off and got married so never had any family there when we did it the first time!) but we really don't know if its the done thing?? any advice and if it is ok any good suggestions to make it extra special? Thanks

Answer 1

My husband and I are having one, in fact we are in the midst of planning right now.
We didnt have a big wedding either and had alot of things that we didnt want at our wedding, so this is kind of a do-over for us. We're doing things the way WE want, not the way others want. We arent exchanging vows, but considered doing it. We didnt think it was necessary for ourselves, but it sounds like a good idea for you guys since no one saw your vows the first time.

The only suggestion I can make is this: if you recieved gifts back then, then I suggest not asking for gfts this time around. Its only been 10 years and honestly do you really need anything? Also, we felt that if we didnt ask for gifts more people would be likely to come because they didnt have to do anything but show up. Just a suggestion though, you guys do what you feel is right for you!

Have lots of fun!

Answer 2

Traditionally weddings are happy times, not only for the wedded but also their loved ones. You didn't give them that joy..because you had that so called "secret wedding". BUT your 10th anniversary can be a double joy for your folks, because it will show them you had been happily married for 10 years, and the second joy is that, for them it is your wedding day!! They didn't know about the first one, remember. So go ahead with your plan.Make it special by inviting as many guests as possible, especially close relatives from both sides.

Answer 3

By all means have your party. Anniversaries can be celebrated any time, whether or not it's the "done thing." This time, invite your family and friends to celebrate your renewal of vows. I think that's one of the lovliest things I've heard, and thank you for asking. Do it! Good luck and blessings on your marriage.

Answer 4

I want to do the same thing, my parents and one of my two sisters were able to come to our wedding, but not my other sister, her kids, or his parents or siblings or grandparents... We've only been married for one year, so this is a longer way off for us, but I say go for it.

Some ideas:
* If you have pictures of your "sneaking off" wedding, blow some up big for people to see at the reception.
* Pick out at least one picture per year that represents your marriage. How many pictures you use and how big they are depends on how many people you're expecting at the wedding.
They don't have to be pictures of both of you together necessarily. A picture of a house you bought, a car, a remodeling project, a major event you went to, etc. Put them onto matching or complimentary scrapbook pages, with a small title if needed like the year, and with a spot reserved for a picture of your 10th. Put the pages on tables or pedestals and have guests sign them with a archival quality (acid free, etc) pens as your guestbook. Encourage them to write about memories they share with you that are brought to mind by these pictures. Then have your sheets framed professionally, esspecially if there's more than one per year, once you have the new picture and put it up in your house somewhere.
* Check the basement/garage/attic/closet for items from your first wedding. Did you have a veil, did he have a particular tie? Recycle if you do. =)

I agree that you don't need another round of gifts, and that some people would be more inclined to come if they weren't expected to bring a gift. There's no easy way to state this, however. ("You don't have to bring us presents" sounds tacky.) The best way to get the desired effect is saying something along the lines of "in lieu of gifts, we encourage you to make a donation to..." and pick a charity each and one together. Or, "in lieu of gifts, we encourage you to bring pictures to share," or your cameras, or something like that, something that celebrates the last 10 years.

Answer 5

I plan to have a 10 year anniversary party. It is great to celebrate marriage!!! I want one at 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years...they are great milestones! Go ahead and have a party!

Answer 6

I think you should definetly have your family come this time... you did it the way YOU wanted the first time which is what really counts
but you may have hurt some people by that and could make up for it by having them come to see that sneak away rondevu is still true love and strong today! Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 7

So, what number invites to anniversaries, weddings and different events have you ever received that had a fee ticket on them? it really is the most ridiculous, low classification ingredient I honestly have ever heard of! it really is previous tacky! And once you reached out to kinfolk contributors telling them you've been going to have the social gathering, what made you imagine they ought to grant to pay? and that i consider J me, your father and mom might want to be morified and thoroughly embarassed in case you charged travellers to attend a social gathering of their honor. My advice is to in consumer-friendly words await their fiftieth and commence saving now so that you may have adequate money it by way of then.

Answer 8

I think that is a great idea so that your familys can be involved this time. My brother and sister in law are doing it for their 5 year anniversary

Answer 9

Definitely, particularly if you eloped the first time.