i got in trouble because of my brother last night and i was going to tell the truth that i recked his stuff but i told a lie and my mom found my shirt and knew i lied so i said i am sorry and cried but i got punished. i got a spanking and my brother shares my room and last night he didn't leave. i also have to go to bed early for a couple weeks. i am way to old to get it. i still get a time out just like them. how do i tell them i want to get grounded? i would not mind this.
2007-01-09 23:39:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i have to get ready for school i will be home this afternoon
2007-01-09 23:41:34 · update #1
Ben R you are a jerk
2007-01-10 07:33:43 · update #2
The key to punishment for doing wrong, Zach is to give you something you don't like so it will make more if an impression on you. If you don't mind getting grounded, it would not really be punishment for you. My son never had to be spanked hardly at all (maybe 3-4 times). He responded to having things and privledges taken away. My daughter could have cared less about losing those things, so she either had to be spanked or had to do a lot of extra chores. Each child is different.
I'm sure your parents know that you don't mind being grounded and so they use other punishment for you.
Remember I told you to tell them as soon as they got home? I think getting caught and then still lying to them made the punishment more severe.
By the way, you are not too old for the punishment they use. You might not believe me now, but from what I have seen you write, I think you have good parents who want you to grow up right. It doesn't seem so now, but if my perception is right about them, you are a very lucky boy.
Now, you say you got into trouble because of your brother, but that is not true, Zach. If he had done that to your stuff you would have been upset too, and you would have told your parents. You got into trouble because you damaged his stuff. You bothered things that were not yours. You are responsible for the actions that got you into trouble!!
Part of showing maturity is taking responsibility when you mis-behave and when you make mistakes. Please think about that, OK?
There is one more thing for your consideration that I think you should do. I am an adult, as I'm sure you know, and I work with kids counseling, etc as my job. I noticed that you have your email up for people to contact you. I don't think this is a good idea. I think for your safety you should take it down. I am a nice person and only want to help you do the right thing. There are other adults and even older kids who might try to find out where you are and they can be pretty tricky getting this info too. Most people are not wanting to hurt kids, but some do and in an open forum like this, I know they are out there.
I really think it is best to not have it up. I don't even make mine public! I hope you take my advice on this!
Above all, never give out personal information, like last names, town where you live, etc. I would never inquire about this and I do not want to know that info. about anybody I answer questions for on here. If people ask any of that stuff no matter how innocent it seems, do not tell them.
I don't want to make you afraid of the world, but keeping personal info private on a forum like this is important because so many people can see it. I really think you should take down that email address and not correspond to people you meet on here through your email. Sometimes people pretend to be kids, even then they are not, but are bad adults who want to harm kids.
I want you to be safe.
Well, take your punishment and try to do better, don't blame others when you mess up and be grateful that your parents want you to do the right things! A lot of kids have parents who hardly know what they do or where they are and that is not good.
Did you apologize to your brother for wrecking his things? You should, you know!
Good Luck, Take Care
2007-01-10 01:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to what you are saying, When i was younger at school if we where naughty in class we would get told to sit or stand in the corner with our hands on our head. I told my mum that this is how i would like to be punished when i was naughty. (Not that i got that it was either the leather belt, flyswat or wooden spoon) I'd would rather have preferred a grounding than a spanking, but i supose sometimes a good spanking doesnt hurt when your younger (probably not the teen years).
Im 25 now and my mum grounded me for the first time last year, i accidentally forgot to turn the headlights off in the car and letting the battery get flat.
2007-01-10 00:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by criddlekellie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them what you told us! Tell them you think being grounded is more appropriate for your age (btw how old are you?). Technically have to go to bed early for a couple weeks can be considered grounded. But if you feel you are too old for the punishments they give you... then why did you act like a child by wrecking your brother's stuff and then lying about it?
2007-01-10 01:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Britt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are old enough to misbehave and lie about it and know you are lying, then you are old enough to deal with the consequences of that behavior and lie. Your parents are the ones who dole out the punishments, not you. If it's something you don't mind, then it's not really a punishment.
And as an aside, stop doing things like that and you won't get time outs.
BTW, how old are you?
2007-01-09 23:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave a message to all family members that you would like to have a family meeting. Hand out an itinerary and go over all the things you want to talk about. Including apologies for your brother and parents. If you confront them in an adult manner you will be surprised at what happens.
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2016-10-30 12:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would not mind being grounded? Then what good is that. I think a bare bottom spanking in front of your whole family is the right thing because this you DO mind and thus will not repeat the misbehavior.
2007-01-10 04:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you do the crime, you gotta be prepared to do the time.
If they gave you a punishment that you preferred then how would it be an effective punishment?
2007-01-09 23:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your way to old to go to bed early, then your way to old to be wrecking your brothers stuff.
2007-01-09 23:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by pebbles 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
punishments is not meant to be a good thing or punishment you like,
2007-01-09 23:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by jaffarkelshac 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋