My boyfriend is of mixed race of half black indian & half white & he looks exotic & sexy with his light brown skin, hazel eyes & straight brown hair. The problem is my parents are against Blacks, but my boyfriend isn't black. I'm still affraid to introduce him to them. My father believes that blacks are a lower race who look & act like monkeys & that white girls who go out with blacks are usually the fat or ugly or the whore* ones. I don't know what my parents opinion is about a mixed guy. What would u suggest that i do ?
2007-01-09 23:07:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all my Grandpa is the most racist man I think on the planet, so I know how you feel.
Here's some advice that I hope can help you out
1. Sit both of them down and tell them that you have a mixed friend that you want them to meet. I wouldn't just come out and say that you are dating him or like just yet. If they say NO, bring up that not all black people are ignorant, poor, uneducated, etc. And give examples, too. Maybe a black teacher you have, actor, actress, singer, politician, etc.
2. If they agree to meet him, do something that involves all of your family. Like bowling. I love bowling because when one person is bowling, then other people can talk. (Dont go to a movie or watch a movie- you cant get to know somebody when you do that!!!) Play a game. Pictionary, Charades, Monopoly, etc. Have him over for dinner.
3. Bring him around a lot so your family can see what kind of good guy he is.
4.Introduce his family to yours. My favorite: Take his mom and your mom and you on a shopping trip!! His Dad and your Dad golfing!
5.Slowly start to introduce him as more than a friend. Say somehting like " I am really starting to like ______. He is such a great person.
7. Then if your family still says no, be very mature about it. Ask them why not?? If they say something like I just dont like the idea of two different races, then bring up the fact that you love him very much and he makes you feel good about yourself, etc
PS. My father was very very hesitant about me dating anybody! Fathers just want whats best for their little girls. Prove to your dad that this guy is worth while!!
2007-01-09 23:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by 88776 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your parents as long as you live under their roof in situations like this no matter what age you are. It is their home and their rules apply or you should find your own housing. You should talk to the easiest of the two first and then the other parent that is, if your really interested in dating this guy and his feelings are mutual. Otherwise it's not worth upsetting your parents over. You only have 1 mom and 1 dad and their not replaceable, boyfriends are.
2007-01-10 00:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 14:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even touch on the subject of race when you bring him to meet your parents. If your dad starts acting like a jackass, just keep a smile plastered on your face and keep holding your bf's hand. If the situation gets too bad, don't make a scene, but calmly suggest that the two of you are going to leave.
Most importantly, keep that Stepford smile plastered on your face!
oh, and please don't refer to people as "of color". that's a borderline racist term in itself.
2007-01-09 23:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been there...I dated a black guy in high school, my dad went through the roof and i lost a few friends over it, but that didn't stop us.
We are not in a relationship but we are still friends to this day
2007-01-09 23:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Racism is a dying old way of narrow mindedness. I'm usually all for following the parents but screw your folks on this one!
2007-01-09 23:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by Game Guy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get ready for world war 3. hard to change people set in their ways
2007-01-09 23:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by ray 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋