I'm 14 and I've noticed this. No one can hurt our feelings so bad and so devastating as our parents. I think it's because our parents are or should be our primary and most important source of love, so when they hurt ouir feelings it's so devastating. Something like breaks inside us and there seems to be no solution, no possibilty to fix the damages. Parents should be aware of this and avoid being so emotionally devastating to their kids. When I'm a mom, if I ever have kids, I'm sure I'll care about my kids feelings, afte all, if you love someone, you care about his/her feelings.
2007-01-09 22:59:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Once I got older I realized my mother didn't really mean to hurt our feelings. She did what she knew from her parents. She also was trying to keep us from making her mistakes. Talk to a counselor at school who can give you tips on how to talk with your parents about this. Sometimes, parents don't understand the pain they cause because they think they are saying stuff out of love. My parents/siblings are the reason I only had one child. I didn't want to ever play favorites (kids know this even when they are young). I also tried to give my son confidence and always let him know how proud I was of him. This may be how your parents were treated and that is all they know.
IIt is very brave and mature of you to want to tackle this issue. hope you can resolve it so you can have a good relationship with your family. I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-09 23:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by fab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The case with most parents is they are human and they try the best they can they love u but the world does get parents stressed some times where a child or teen could not even realize what they are going through and they may cause the to make mistakes most of these comments talk about just that!!!!! When for a SMALL percentage of parents only care about how they look so on social media or with friends they act like a good loving caring parent when they could care less about your feelings!!!! Its no surprise there are parents out there like that I say this being a parent of two beautiful wonderful aggravating lil rugrats and having parents of my own I see just how much I care and love my babies and how I should be loved and cared for and having children only confirmed my fear that I was not being treated how a loving caring parent would care for there child!!! I m just glad the gene didn t carry on to me!! God bless
2016-04-04 15:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Call 911 2. Still money from your dad pocket 3. yell at your parents and say loudly - You hate them 4. Talk to your neighbors and let them know this brutal & inhuman behavior of parents to you.. OR. Look sweet girl, parents love their all children equally, so don't think anything negatively. never complain about the things your parents can't give you, this is probably because they had given whatever they can . Stay calm, Talk to your parents about feelings, if you can't talk to them then write. Mom are best friends for daughters, why don't you talk to your mom. see, go to her, start cry, that's all, you don't need to do anything more, act some hate. And you done, Finally if this all would not work out then please, keep patience or start to work a little-bit you can give tuition or volunteer your time for social work,this will help you to build up your confidence and as time will advance, you can start your own work and earn a lot for yourself to waste for anything :)
2016-05-23 03:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...children aren't delivered with a "how to car for your new child" booklet. Parents are human. We make mistakes sometimes big ones . Sometimes repetitive ones.
...you spoke our peace very nicely here. It is all about love and it keeps to the point ...so here's is my advice...
...when ever one is calm ask for a family meeting ... and either print this off and let them read it ...or better still say it to them....
...I am sure they will be devastated to hear that they have hurt you so much.
Now you have to be reasonable to, and open to how your actions might be hurting them on occasion ...so just as you want them to have more respect for your feelings- you must do the same...You can't at this point say "but I am only 14 I am a child...I have a right to mess up"....
everyone, children, teens, adults, and grandparents, mess up on occasion. We all have to take responsibility for our own actions. The trick is learning how to deal with "mess ups" ...tolereance and forgiveness both very important.
Talk to them - they love you too!
2007-01-10 00:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER that simple.
On one level you are right, sometimes parents are dumb and ignorant, and they make mistakes. Hey, they are people. Surprise!
But some other times you have to balance between what makes your kid happy and what is good for your kid. Are you saying that you're going to keep feeding your kids mcdonalds because they enjoy it, and never make them eat vegetables?
As a parent, you are faced with these kinds of choices. Sometimes you have to make hard decisions that will make your kids hate you. You will find, as you grow older, that there is more merit to the words "it hurts me more than it hurts you" and "you'll thank me later" than there seems to be right now.
2007-01-09 23:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to think that parents are perfect
thats untill i realised(and the swooner you realise it too, the better for you) that parents are also HUMAN
i mean that your parents love you very very much and they never have the intention of hurting your feelings, but as they are just humasn they make mistakes, or could say things they dont really mean, or just dont say them the right way, or they judge wrongly some things but thats just a human behavior
as everyone else, parents too are not perfect
but they are not doing that on purpose
2007-01-09 23:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by girl24gr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most important things you learn as you get older is that the people you love the most can hurt you the most. Most of the time these people don't mean to hurt you...you just get caught in the cross-fire of life. For whatever reason we tend to take the people we love for granted. We just don't treat them like we do strangers or friends. We aren't nearly as kind, thoughtful or understanding with the people we love and that love us. We are careless with their feelings....the killer of it is, we really don't mean to do it!!! No one is perfect. And if you are hurt, you should talk to your parents...and remember to treat others as you would like them to treat you!! Best wishes.
2007-01-10 00:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because we all want approval from our parents. I'm 42 and still want my parents approval. I'm sure your parents care about your feelings--sometimes I probably say things to my son that hurt his feelings, but I don't mean to. Why don't you try telling them? They might not even know they hurt your feelings.
2007-01-10 00:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling... we're very emotional because we're teens, we're in our developmental stage... maybe we did something wrong and maybe to them we're till kids but maybe it's time for them to realize that we're growing up... it will pass, don't worry... they are family...
2007-01-09 23:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats all so simple... juz becoz they love you MUCH...
think again... if they dont love you this much... and they doesnt care about you.. do you like it? of course you dont ^^
love them back...
2007-01-09 23:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by theresia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋