My bf and I got into an arguement today... He said this you're always reading more into things than is really there. What exactly does he mean by it? Is it a bad thing as if well perhaps he doesn't want to be together anymore??
2007-01-09 22:54:48 · 11 answers · asked by Jenny Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means you over analyze what he says, i don't think he wants to break up with you unless he said that specifically
2007-01-09 22:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, men only say what they mean and mean what they say they dont have time to sit and think of millions of senarios like we can, he telling you exactly your not listening, hes saying stop adding extra things into the arguement that dont have a place or reason argue about the present and not about something you were holding on to for weeks and stop bringing up examples etc its a waste of time because he doesnt want to hear all the nagging we women make we can go on for hours make up and still deep down in our minds still be pissed after we just made up a few minutes ago. if u just tell him what wrong directly like what you said hurt my feelings he will understand better and another reminder never look for what you want him to say because hes only human to you know take his response and let by gones be by gones kapesh
2007-01-10 07:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by tuttifruity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, arguments are often caused by misunderstanding something that someone said or did.
If he says something that you are about to react badly to, ask him calmly what he actually meant, without it sounding accusing, just a polite request for clarification. Don't just assume it means something else, based on previous experiences, and then start arguing about it. People often react to what something means to them, not to what the speaker meant.
For example, if he says 'I want to go out with my friends on Friday' (without you), don't read into it 'He doesn't love me anymore'. He just wants to do guy things for a bit and not lose touch with his old friends by spending 7 evenings a week with you. If you don't understand what something means, just ask him calmly without sounding anxious about it.
Guys don't talk much. We don't say anything that we think is unnecessary (such as telling you again and again that they love you and want to be with you). Guys just say something once and expect you to remember it, not realising you like to hear it. If a guy wants to break up with a girl, he will come out and say 'I want to break up with you', he won't hint at it or imply it or play games. You don't need constant reassurance that everything is OK. If a guy doesn't say 'I want to break up with you', you can rest-assured that everything is just fine. By asking you to spend time with him he's just implying that he wants to stay with you.
Your question is a perfect example of a misunderstanding. You've interpreted 'You're always reading too much into things' as 'We shouldn't be together anymore'. Its not true. He probably loves you to bits.
See whether you, him and your girl-friends think this is right.
2007-01-10 07:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by ricochet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what he means about it is that, you've been expecting a lot of things from him were he can't achieve or give to you. Maybe he's feelings was hurt about that and it might cause you a relationship. Try to accept him for what he is and not for what you expect him to become. LOVE HIM FOR WHAT HE IS.
try to talk to him about it and ask him. Be prepare for what he will say to you, you might get hurt about it. Then say the magic words to him, SORRY AND I LOVE YOU. God bless you
2007-01-10 07:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by KRISTOFFER D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He meant you are thinking too much, in another words, sometimes complicating things. gd luck. It's not a good thing but not bad to the extend that he wants to break up.
2007-01-10 07:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to say that you over analyse things. And I don't think he told you so because he wants to break up but I think he said so coz of the pressure that has been put on him during your argument.
2007-01-10 07:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he thinks you take small issues too seriously.
This could be your problem or it could be his, but of course without knowing what issues you were arguing about it's impossible to say.
Ask him what he means by it. I'm sure you can work things out :-)
2007-01-10 06:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by bonshui 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your boyfriend isn't aware of the stitioun that your more concerende about the things and perhaps he should try to give more effort in trying to understand u and how feel about him and how much your concerened about him .
2007-01-10 07:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he means that you are bad to jump to the wrong conclusions
2007-01-10 07:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by דְבוֹרָה Devorah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by asking this question now....I think I can see his point!
2007-01-10 07:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by lotsofadventures04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋