i find it really difficult to talk to my mum bout 'things' if u know what i mean, and just things in general. i can't even hug her, i'm really worried coz i've got a boyfriend and i'm gonna have to tell her bout him soon. i'm worried what her reaction will be. i just want to be close to her so i can talk to her whenever i need to. how do i do this? plz help.
2007-01-09 22:39:34 · 16 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit her down and talk to her. Do some 'mother daughter bonding' do girlie things together and once you are warmed up to each other, ask her the things that are bothering you, and tell her the things you want to tell her. Make sure that you thank her for listening and she'll be more approachable in the future as well.
2007-01-09 22:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be describing me right now. I'm the same wit my mum chick's. I'm a real ppl person n can talk to anyone but its different wit my mum. I can't hug her either n she's the same. There's an awkwardness there between us. I've often sat down n tried talking with her about it but usually it ends up wit us getting upset or angry about the past or things that have happened n then its left n never resolved. I just thought i'd write in to you to let you know you're not on your own. I'll be watching the answers ppl write in too x x x
2007-01-09 23:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people find it easier to talk about the serious stuff when they are doing something with the person they want to talk to. Is there something you and your mom can do together? She might appreciate help with housework, or perhaps you could ask her to teach you something she does for fun. Does she paint, knit, do flower arrangements? Show some interest in what is important to her and you will both find that spending time together is becoming more comfortable and the conversation will come automatically.
2007-01-09 22:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a common factor or interest between you and your mom.You can also try to be more sweet and helpful to her.Help her in the kitchen,bring her flowers,etc.Then when you are together start a conversation with her.You can talk about your school,friends,projects or even general subjects such as new T.V. shows,etc.
2007-01-09 22:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind to your mother. Show her a lot of love and respect. If you have a very hard time hugging her, try hugging her while kidding around with her about something. I do this to my 15 year old daughter who absolutely hates to be hugged. Usually she laughs and starts kidding around and talking about stuff too. Eventually, she will take hugs from you at any time. :-)
2007-01-09 22:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem. i always had to lie to my parents about so many things - but it only made things worse - it seemed to seperate us even more because i felt i couldnt talk to her. Its been 11 months since i saw my mom as i moved to the UK, and i just decided to be honest with her about EVERYTHING, even things in the past - now we are like best friends!! Although it helps being 15 hours away from her! lol!! i miss her so much
2007-01-09 22:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear, have you ever think about when you were a baby, your mum alway hug you with love. don't hug her only when you need her. where is your love gone? try to understand her and you know what, you owe her. your life has been given by her, she rises you and you are saying you can't even talk to her.
2007-01-09 22:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by yiufdbgkhfjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your mum will love to talk to you more.Go shopping with her and take time to advise her.Listen to her when she is talking about her job even if you prefer not to.Spend time with her even if it is in front of the tv.And soon complicity will be there.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 22:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughters just got her first boyfriend .... she was scared to tell me to ... but she did and i was expecting it .. you obviously lack in confidence you need to make yaself more confident .. just tell her ... if its really that bad you should just admit you find it hard to talk to her ... i used to struggle talking to my mum wen i was in my teens but i spoke to her about it and the i felt much better .... me and my mum are so close now .... i hope you can sort things out soon sugar xx
2007-01-09 22:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by vikki b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to stick with her..... why du u find it difficult? it's been for it's years ....maybe she's not ur real mom? peace
just tr yto be with her always and then try asking things just tok to her ! try to imagine that u need a true frend best frend ...to share some stuffs
2007-01-09 22:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by miss pau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋