i tend to get tongue tied around guys (thats around my age ) , even when i dont have a crush on them ..especially if im alone and theres a couple of guys .. why ? im not a shy kinda gal ..this starts occuring when im 2nd yr in college but before that like in high school , im not at all nervous . What should i do ? Does anyone experience this before ?
2007-01-09 22:18:35 · 25 answers · asked by Cassie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you are relying on their opinion of you. DON'T!! Build your confidence girl! YOU should be the one, to choose which one of them YOU want to spend time with!
2007-01-09 22:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, welcome to the real world. Iremember a talk show about this some years ago. Seem us poor homo saps do this sort of thing when we are around atractive potential mates. We get tongue tied, trip over our shoe laces, drop our books lock our keys in the car etc. I'm twice your age and still have problems talking with women who are any where in the range of being a potential partner. Think about what you are feeling, your self image, anything else you notice and keep a diary, see if there are any patterns. Compare with your memories of high school.
Take time every morning to look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself "I like myself" or "I love myself" 10 times out loud. Mean it. Get some exercise, it releases all sorts of endorfins to make you feel good
2007-01-10 06:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shane L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem. If I'm at a bar, I have no problem chatting it up and socializing. But if I have to even walk past a group of guys anywhere else I get very nervous and 9 times out of 10 choose another route, just to avoid them completely. I'll be paying close attention to the answers myself!
2007-01-10 06:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by gg55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seriously its not a problem anymore because a lot of people have this problem even some guys do as far as i know from my guy friends.you are actually experiencing some kind of psycological fear and it happens when your brain tells you that the person you are dealing with is of a different sex,all of this is actually just psycological.what u can actually do to overcome your fear is actually start by interacting with one guy and slowly work up your way to a couple.i must admit that hanging with a couple of guys on your own can be a bit scary at first but once you have broken that barrier,you realise that its actually nothing.Trust me on this i've experienced this before.Now i hangout with a group of guys and i'm the only girl in the group i don't feel weird at all and most of the time,if you are a nice girl, guys will just welcome you into their group.
2007-01-10 06:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by choisteng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think even the coolest of us have our moments. Best piece of advice, put it out of your mind and don't think about it. Because you worry yourself into doing it. Second thing, find on the Net something real topical (current too). Rehearse an opening statement about it e.g. Wasn't it a shame about the Titanic, all those poor people, did you hear about it? By having your question ready and rehearsed, you'll get it out without blunders and you should get a response. And usually that "ice breaker" will ease the nerves.
2007-01-10 06:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U think to much about if the hot guy or cute guy is looking at u thats what makes u nervous u worry about it too much just relax. I'm in High School and I'm still expieriencing this.
2007-01-10 06:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal, i think that you think to much about what to say and how to act , when you should just try to be yourself, i also think that your wanting everyone to like and except you, but reality is there is always going to be someone who doesnt like you. I triple think that you liked them all. Which is cool but try to look at them as just a bestfriend first, how do you connect with this person, are they someone thats worth your time or friendship, if not make up a short answer like yes or no and just be like hey see you around if they are interested youll know just say hi the next time you see them.
2007-01-10 06:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by tuttifruity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the girls experiance the same.Its bcoze of our mind setting ,if ur indian girl our society has said that its not good to atleast talk with them so our mind will b developed in the way ,but where as if u see a foriener they wo'nt have these ristrictions so,they won't feel the same ,b confident don't feel so much
2007-01-10 06:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you because I experienced it also, it is hard for me to get along really well with guys especially if they love to make fun of me or make me feel bad. But all I can say is that you can overcome that maybe not now but what do you think next time............ so don't be nervous and just make your self feel at home and enjoy even though your not too close to them. That's all!!!!
2007-01-10 06:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Glorivee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think the area around you is your class mates or family members or even your co-workers. No body is judging you! Then go for it and start talking to some one your interested in. I'm the same way, even more nerves than any body.
2007-01-10 06:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by wordistob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be too insecure about yourself. Or you worry way too much about what the guys think of you, especially college guys! You need to relax and be confident! If you are confident, it will show and guys will admire you for it. Good luck.
2007-01-10 06:26:08 · answer #11 · answered by falala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋