my daughter is 17 years old, she manages to know my credit card number and been ordering clothes ect. from the internet. at first she would not own up to it until the letters arrives asking for my signature to give permission for investigation and maybe police involvement. she promise to pay for it but when i ask her for money she said she does not have enough wages to pay for another months. she also did it again with my other card, i dont know how she find the number and i'm really worried that she end up in prison when she is older. any advice?
2007-01-09 22:14:09 · 33 answers · asked by emee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
hide your cards
2007-01-09 22:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Roxley x 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing is to contact your credit card issuing companies and request the numbers be changed, they should also be able to advise on your situation if you have any further concerns.
It would be prudent to have your cards delivered to you directly and you should never leave these lying around nor should you have any statements available for your daughter to utilise any information. I would say your daughter is performing fraud and using your credit cards is a form of identify theft which is very, very punishable by the courts in this country.
Confirm what amount of money your daughter makes and set-up a standing order to get the monies owed on a monthly basis until she has settled you in full.
The internet is another place that you should control, any PC s at home should be locked down.
Involving the police will no doubt have a very negative impact and will springboard your daughter to wrong.
2007-01-09 22:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if she were taught right from wrong and about respecting others long ago you wouldn't be in this mess. You better find a way soon, she'll be 18 and all you will hear is I'm 18. Hide your credit cards and banking info. shut down the computer so she can't order things, follow through with threats. tell her you will press charges if you find out she has stolen your #'s again, and follow through with it. You can bet your sweet a*s if it were a stranger they'll follow through and she's not that far behind to jumping to the next level.. Stop trying to protect her and being her friend, she has enough friends, be a parent before your visiting her on sundays btween the hours of 1 and 3.
2007-01-09 22:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had this problem with her son. She phoned the local police station and explained the problem and asked them to give him a really hard time and to keep him in a cell for a night. So she took him there after school the next day, and spent all evening crying on my shoulder about what an awful mum she was, but she now realises it was for the best, coz when she went to pick him up the next day, he was so apologetic, and has never stolen anything from anyone again! Apparently the police get this all the time, and would rather keep a kid in the cells overnight, than be arresting them for theft and sending them to prison 10 years later! Good luck!
2007-01-10 09:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take all the clothes and things she bought and sell it. Sell her computer. It'll help make the payment on your credit card. Make her work for what she wants. Food. Everything. By locks for your bedroom door and keep everything in there if u dont want to get rid of some of the things. She just sounds very spoiled and maybe a few nights in jail will show her just how spoiled she is!! haha. Sure you dont want your daughter to screw up her life, yes its hard to rat out your own daughter but if shes direspecting you that much and keeps disrespecting let her learn the hard way. She wont be a princess in jail. And having a record isnt gona get her to princess status any quicker.
2007-01-13 07:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by SiKofPsYchos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem harsh, but allow the police to come to your house and tell them that someone has access to your credit card numbers and they are using them. Now, some how or another you and the police officer will be on the same page, but your daughter will not know it. Allow him to talk about it and what happens when the thief is caught, etc....
My reasoning for this is sometimes young people need a good scare in order for them to straighten up. If this does not work, then counseling......
2007-01-10 07:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look there are times you need to implement tough love. I have four boys, ages 16, 13, 11, and 5. My eldest started giving me all sorts of attitudes and wasn't acting right so I bought a home drug test which tests for seven types of drugs. I had him pee in a cup tested it, it wasn't conclusive so I sent it to the Lab people with this company to get positive readings. Thankfully it came back negative for everything. I found out he was hanging out with questionable kids. I told him right then and there after the results, that he was lucky it came back negative, because I love him so much I won't stand by and watch him waste away on drugs. I informed him that if it were positive I would've turned him in for his own sake. I also told him that if I ever suspect anything this will all happen again. This may sound harsh but you should give her another chance, but with the stipulation if she uses your card again for anything that you'll turn her in to the police for theft and fraud, and then stick to it. This may be the wake-up call she needs. If you love your daughter sometimes you have to go right out there on the limb for them and yes she'll probably hate you for now, but she'll come around and realize exactly how much you do love her. It's not easy, there's no easy solution here. I hope this helps at least a little bit and Good luck.
2007-01-10 03:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by katriana30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing you have ever had to do as a parent is coming! You have to learn you can not always protect your daughter, unfortunately she may have to learn the hard way. If she will steal from her own mother what do you think will stop her from stealing from prefect strangers? You have to end this NOW! Scare her, if know anyone in the police department ask them to come over. pretend that you are filing a complaint. At such a young age that kind of scare can turn her around.
2007-01-10 02:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one way of looking at this problem, and that is to call it what it is: credit card fraud. Would you be so accommodating if a stranger had your credit card details and charged up sums without your permission? Family or not, fraud is fraud. Report this to your bank, explain the situation, and ask them if they have any advice to offer regarding unauthorised use of your card. Then get that daughter of yours to a psychiatrist so the root of the problem can be determined and dealt with. Good luck to you!
2007-01-09 22:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE WILL END UP IN PRISON IF THIS GOES ON AND GETS WORSE !!
I would contact my credit card co., tell them, maybe change card no.s, and inform your daughter that if this happens again...that you will drag her BUTT down to Juvenile Hall (or even Main Jail)..and have the authorities give her a little "Scared Straight" action (do you remember that movie??) Tell her that cc fraud is a criminal offense and find out maximum sentence - probably 5-10 years !!
SERIOUSLY, ONE DAY JUST YOUR CARD WONT BE ENOUGH AND SHE WILL HAVE DEVELOPED A PROBLEM....GO ELSEWHERE AND GET INTO BIG TROUBLE...STOP THIS NOW !!)
2007-01-09 22:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by suumagoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this could sound stupid yet have you ever tried speaking to the little female. it is glaring that she is crying out for interest. a toddler does no longer differentiate between sturdy and undesirable interest. whilst i replaced into her age I did an identical element. a number of issues have been happening in my abode on the time and that i did no longer sense as close to to my Father as we as quickly as have been,. So i could thieve stupid stuff no longer something vast yet super adequate so it replaced into observed then for sure my Father could get mad at me and yell and fuss yet I felt on the time whats up a minimum of he's paying interest to me now., If the mummy is being vindictive in the direction of the older daughter i does no longer point out those stealing sprees along with her, there's a situation suitable there. you assert which you're purely the Step-mom being a step mom is lots extra sturdy than being a mom. you are not getting to start from scratch and additionally you're each and every of the unexpected interior the thick of it. whilst the doorstep babies are on your place you are able to desire to set the guidelines. You and your husband could desire to tutor a united front on those rules. If the mummy won't help you I propose that the daddy revisit the custody undertaking in courtroom. sturdy success to you and your loved ones,
2016-12-16 05:53:53 · answer #11 · answered by clapperton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋