i am so so so down in the dumps right now. i had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and me and my bf who i love dearly r changin towards eachother,he wants a bit of time and a break but i dont. i cant help but texting him to be intouch as i dont c the point in draggin things on. i no he loves me but i just want us to be happy again. also it is going to take me 3 yrs to get my diploma in beauty therapy, which is the job i want to do but in the mean time im sick of dead end jobs, im workin in this office at the mo and its really getting me down. i want to be a model but i dont seem to be getting anywhere and becos of money probs i cant afford for professional pics at the mo. so thats really affecting me cos i want to do it so much. i have no money and i need to move out becos livin at home is really really bad, but none of my friends r ready to move out and i dont have enough money. my bf got his own house with his mate 3 weeks ago and i feel really down about that too as he doesnt seem to
2007-01-09 21:45:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be bothered by the fact that i want to move out and he has his own place. pls help, i cant take much more, i no some people may think this is petty but everythings getting ontop of me too much now. my gran also who is like my mum cs i dont talk to my real mum has breast cancer which i found out last week. i just need some help.
2007-01-09 21:46:49 · update #1
I am sorry that you are having such a difficult time. I do not know if you are religeous, but all I can offer are these next few words which is an extract from "Your Best Life Now" written by Joel Osteen.:
I.ve discovered two kinds of faith-a delivering faith and a sustaining faith. Delivering faith is when God instantly turns your situation around. When that happens, it's great. But I believe it takes a greater faith and a deeper walk with God to have that sustaining faith. That's when circumstances don't change immediately, but you say, "God, I don't care what comes against me, I don't care how long it takes, this thing in not going to defeat me. It's not going to get me down. I know You're on my side. And as long as You are for me, that's all that matters." Sustaining faith is what gets you through those dark nights of the soul when you don't know where to go or what to do, and it seems that you can't last another day...but because of your faith in God, you DO. When you have that kind of attitude, the adversity doesn't have a chance with you. Besides, it's not usually adversities that cause our problems; it's how we respond to our adversities. You can have a little bitty problem and it can defeat you. On the other hand, I've seen people dealing with huge problems-tragic deaths in the family, incurable diseases, divorce, bankruptcy, and all sorts of other calamities-yet they are happy and at peace. They are living in an attitude of faith. They are believing for things to change. They are determined to live in VICTORY! When you face adversity, you need to remind yourself that whatever is trying to defeat you could very well be what God will use to promote you... Our thoughts and expectations wield tremendous power and influence in our lives. We don't always get what we deserve in life, but we usually get no more that we expect; we receive what we believe. Unfortunately, this principle works as strongly in the negative as it does in the positive.
Anyway, BE STRONG, HAVE FAITH and GOD BLESS.
2007-01-09 22:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow really sorry to hear all that you seem to be going true a really tough time right now... talk to your boyfriend explain to him how you feel and tell him the same thing your telling us here and if he doesn't seem to care witch it looks that way then move on hes not worth it he doesn't seem to care much about you specially now that your having such a hard time dealing with all these major changes that's going on in your life at the moment. and you should also talk to somebody close to you a good friend because you have to let out all this stress and do something nice for your self maybe go out somewhere nice for the weekend.
2007-01-10 05:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady.
1st, sms him you need some time off to do your diploma and look after your grann.
2nd, do not give yourself too much stress.
3rd, try to relax more by taking short rests inbetween the diploma course and looking after your grann.
4th, you can ask 1 of your good friends to take a simple photo of you for your future modelling.
5th, not everyone is suited to a ladder up the society. looks like you and me are suited to a simple life.
a simple life can be pretty you know?
reschedule what you do each day and do things in a much simpler way.
and good luck! -_-
mercury of love
2007-01-10 06:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by mercury of love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say it but if it is space he want's give it to him he has t ocope with the loss also and it may be that things were going south for him before the miscarrige.It would really help for you to get some counseling a miscarrige is a big loss to your body and your soul and then t odeal with your mother's cancer on top of that is devasting I know as I lost my mother to cancer you really need some kind of support system to get you through I am very sorry for your loss and wish you and your mom the best,focus on that for now.good luck
2007-01-10 05:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it like your boyfriend don,t won,t you no Mort he got what he wont form you and you just old to him that just some way man are
2007-01-10 05:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋