my bf of over a year has just called an end to our relationship after over a year because he thinks i was out of order in emailing his ex girlfriend and telling her he had been cheating on her for three months with me and had also had fling with various other girls.. i emailed this girl cause she is a nice girl and also because i wanted to put an end to feeling second best to her.. do you think i was in the wrong??? he's been telling me for a year he would tell her himself but after finding out he'd spoken to her after he promised he wouldnt.. it was the last straw!!!
He says know the only way i can still be with him.. which obviously what i want.. is under the condition that i never have access ever again to his email account!!
2007-01-09 21:02:31 · 8 answers · asked by Melinda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say good for you, it was obvious he was never gonna tell her so u did, if he split up with u then his loss i say, if he was cheating on her with u then whos to say he wouldnt of done the same to u, as for the ultimatum a relationship doesnt have ultimatums thats rubbish, i wouldnt be with him hunny, me and my partner have seperate email accounts and the word is TRUST he goes into mine and so do i his, so think u need to think this one over, sorry mostly negative but men think they own us women and they dont.
Good luck
2007-01-09 21:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a nice girl why would you want to drag up the past and hurt her like that. you are most definitely in the wrong. You contacted her for selfish reasons and you obviously feel insecure about your relationship. If you can't trust your boyfriend then you shouldn't be with him as all relationships are based on trust. If he gives you a second chance I suggest you remember that!
2007-01-10 05:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
…You sent it from HIS email?
You were in the wrong. SOOOOOO very in the wrong.
Did you also break into his email to do it, or did you not sink quite so low?
If you’re so bothered about your BFs ex, you have to stop and ask yourself why.
Feeling second best isn’t about her. It’s about YOU.
Feeling the need to “win” isn’t about her. It’s about YOU.
Why did you feel so insecure in the relationship?
Why did you feel the need to go out with a person that was already in a relationship?
Why did you feel the need to break up the relationship?
THAT is what you should be asking.
2007-01-10 05:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by deranged_bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is being quite reasonable. How he deals with his previous relationships is up to him. If his ex is such a nice girl why would you want to hurt her by bringing up something which is bound to upset her and is completely irrelevant now the relationship is over. It seems a very cruel and manipulative thing to do to me.
2007-01-10 05:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were out of order.
I would drop kick you to the curb so fast, you wouldn't know what day it was.
Your bf is doing the right thing by dumping you.
2007-01-10 05:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes, dont do it again in your next relationship.
2014-08-24 11:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a fool never meddle with partners past.
2007-01-10 05:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u want access anyway
2007-01-10 05:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by lee f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋