the verbal abuse has started again. As soon as he gets back to work if anything goes wrong he takes it out on me. I am just so sick of it as I have tried everything to help and understand him with his stress levels.
Advice please from someone. I am ill and do not need this every day of every week down the phone comes the verbal from him.
2007-01-09 21:01:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You need to lay down the law my friend sort it out.
2007-01-09 21:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because of the phrase 'him indoors' I presume you live in the UK.
I do not know which part of the UK so I am going to give you a National Freephone number to Woman's Aid. They are a national charity working to end domestic violence against women and children.
Call this number today because Verbal Abuse is classed as violence. These people understand fully what it is like to be in a violent relationship.
Call 0808 2000 247 today.
'Him indoors' needs to do some stress management classes with his employer.
2007-01-10 05:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nutcracker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about marriage guidance? If he is that stressed maybe you could convince him to see the doctor and get some help. If you are ill then you don't need the added strain of his constant abuse. I think I just answered a question for you about waist size? Does he have a weight problem too or is his abuse directed at your weight. if it is then you are going to have to sit him down and tell him you want to lose weight but need his support. His treatment of you is only going to make you feel depressed and lower your self esteem which can result in comfort eating which is only going to make things worse. You will end up in a vicious circle.
I hope you are able to talk with him and get some help for you both. Good luck.
2007-01-10 05:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs counselling. You don't have to put up with verbal abuse any more than if someone gives physical abuse. Get yourself away from the phone and refuse to talk to him unless he agrees to some anger management.
Good Luck hun.....feel for you
xx
2007-01-10 05:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by crazeeladee no more 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a pattern?
If there is, do you trigger it?
If there isn't then tell him straight you are not going to stand for it, and don't.
If that doesn't work seek counselling, it may be compulsive behaviour on his part.
If that doesn't work, leave him. No one should be physically or verbally abused for whatever reason.
2007-01-10 05:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Simon D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer his calls, if you live with him leave.
This is abuse.
2007-01-10 05:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoot him
2007-01-10 05:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Troubled Joe(the ghost of) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋